Since announc­ing my upcom­ing pro­gram on pas­sion and inti­macy, I’ve received quite a few emails from peo­ple ask­ing me some ques­tions about it.

Instead of respond­ing to these ques­tions indi­vid­u­ally, I’m going to post my answers here–that way, you can ben­e­fit from the answers too.

So here’s a selec­tion of ques­tions, along with my answers:

Q. “Will your upcom­ing pro­gram be expen­sive?“
A. The pro­gram will be very affordable–less than a ses­sion of sex/relationship ther­apy, less than a roman­tic hol­i­day in Paris, and cer­tainly much less than a painful divorce! Let’s face it, a healthy sex life is one of the cheap­est forms of enter­tain­ment you can get in these try­ing times, and it’s also one of the most fulfilling.

Q. “My part­ner is not open to work­ing things out. How would your pro­gram change that?“
A. I’ve helped thou­sands of ail­ing rela­tion­ships over the years, and that includes some very stub­born indi­vid­u­als. Trust me, I know where you’re com­ing from. I also know that even if they don’t seem open to change, or if they’ve tried other ‘solu­tions’ in the past with no suc­cess, your part­ner will open up after going through mine. My unique tech­niques and approaches go beyond con­ven­tional psy­cho­log­i­cal meth­ods, and they have an extremely high suc­cess rate.

Q. “I’m too shy to seek help for such an inti­mate issue!“
A. And that’s pre­cisely why you should use my pro­gram! This is the Inter­net, and your iden­tity will remain com­pletely anony­mous to me. Unlike sex ther­apy, you don’t need to face a per­son you barely know. Unlike med­ica­tion, you don’t need to approach a doc­tor or phar­ma­cist. Unlike buy­ing a book, you don’t even need to walk into a shop and face a cashier. No one needs to know about this but YOU.

Q. “I’m single/not in love. What could I get out of your pro­gram?“
A. My pro­gram will help you man­i­fest the right part­ner into your life, and keep them there. I want you to expe­ri­ence ful­fill­ing, last­ing inti­macy and passion–not just fleet­ing moments of love that leave you feel­ing empty and unsat­is­fied. Even if you’ve been sin­gle for years, the insights in my pro­gram could be the key to help­ing you find that spe­cial some­one. They’ve already helped count­less oth­ers, and now it’s your turn.

My pro­gram will be out tomor­row, May 27th at 10:00AM (EST). Get ready for it! An email from me will be arriv­ing in your inbox in about 24 hours!

You’ll hear from me soon,

Burt

Now we are at the third and final Pas­sion Pledge.

But before we begin, did you com­mit to the first two? What sort of results did you get?

The third Pas­sion Pledge is per­haps the most pow­er­ful. And it may also be the most challenging.

The Inti­macy Exercise

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This may be some­thing you’re not used to. And if that’s the case, trust me–you must get used to it, because it’s an irre­place­able ingre­di­ent to a life­time of inti­macy and passion.

Now here’s what you do:

Talk to your part­ner about your sex life. Don’t beat around the bush, don’t cover it up with analo­gies, and get ready to be as hon­est and open as possible.

• Ask them if they’ve been enjoy­ing it.
• Ask them if there’s any­thing they think could make it better.
• Ask them if they’d like to do it more often.

Lis­ten to their answers, and give your own opin­ions. Be hon­est, but remem­ber to be sen­si­tive to their feel­ings. Refrain from talk­ing in an accusatory tone.

Remem­ber, you love each other. You’re a team, and you’re doing this to make each other hap­pier, more ful­filled individuals.

If there’s a prob­lem, talk about how you can work together to fix it.

If there’s no prob­lem, talk about how you can make things even better.

The solu­tion may not always be imme­di­ately vis­i­ble, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t one.

When two peo­ple are will­ing to give their all, there will always be a solution.

Being open with one another is an impor­tant first step to regain­ing a pas­sion­ate relationship.

The next step, which I guar­an­tee will ener­gize your rela­tion­ship with end­less pas­sion and inti­macy, is com­ing soon. You’ll dis­cover it once you start my pro­gram, which will be released at 10:00AM (EST) on the 27th of May.

I’ll be in touch.

Burt

I hope you’ve made the com­mit­ment to using the Pas­sion Pledges.

Remem­ber, it’s a very impor­tant step before you start using my upcom­ing pro­gram, and it’s a great kick­start to regain­ing the inti­macy and pas­sion in your relationship.

So now that we’re done with Pas­sion Pledge num­ber one, we’ll move on to the sec­ond one. And this one is per­haps even sim­pler than the first.

The Com­pli­ment Exercise

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Think about some­thing you could say to your part­ner that would make them know you love, admire and appre­ci­ate them.

It could be a phys­i­cal com­ple­ment. For exam­ple, you could tell them you’ve always loved the way their eyes sparkle when they smile. Or how even after all these years, their legs are still as sexy as ever

It could also be a com­ple­ment on their tal­ents or abil­i­ties. If they cook, you could remind them you absolutely love the food they make. If they work in an office, you could tell them you admire the ded­i­ca­tion it must take to get all that work done in one day.

The more spe­cific you are with your com­ple­ment, the better.

Don’t say some­thing that could come across as insin­cere. Your com­ple­ment should be about your part­ner as a per­son, so instead of say­ing “Nice shoes honey,” you could say “I love your taste in shoes. You know exactly what to pick to make your­self look even more gorgeous.”

A com­ple­ment works best when your part­ner is relaxed. Try this exer­cise at a time when both of you are at ease, which could be dur­ing break­fast, dur­ing a night out, or even when you’re get­ting ready for bed.

All you have to do is get their atten­tion, look into their eyes, and most impor­tantly, say it like you mean it.

Who knows, your part­ner might give you a nice reward for it

Remem­ber, my pro­gram will be ready for you at 10:00AM (EST) on May 27th. Until then, keep your­self busy with the Pas­sion Pledges, and look out for the signs of inti­macy and pas­sion flow­ing back into your relationship.

The third and final Pas­sion Pledge will be up tomorrow.

Burt

It’ll take me some time to go through all the ques­tions you asked in the pre­vi­ous blog post, but I know you need help so I’ve pre­pared some­thing for you.

It’s an exer­cise I call The 3 Pas­sion Pledges, and it’s the first step you must take before you get my upcom­ing pro­gram at 10am (EST), on the 27th of May.

It has helped a num­ber of my close friends improve their rela­tion­ship by leaps and bounds, and I’m sure it’ll do the same for you.

All you have to do is com­plete 3 sim­ple tasks over the next 3 days. Don’t worry, they won’t be too hard. I’m not going to ask you to rent an air­plane and paint your lover’s name across the sky

So let’s get started. Pledge num­ber one is oh-so-easy, but when done right will undoubt­edly put a grate­ful smile on your partner’s face…

The Mind­ful­ness Exercise

First, spend 5 min­utes think­ing about what chal­lenges your part­ner faces in his or her life.

• Do they have a stress­ful job?
• Do they have to go through heavy traf­fic, or a busy com­mute every day?
• Are they con­stantly bogged down with house chores?
• Kids?
• Health issues?

Once you’ve iden­ti­fied these chal­lenges, pick one (prefer­ably the one they seem both­ered about most), and talk to them about it.

Don’t over­com­pli­cate things. All you have to do is find an appro­pri­ate time, when he or she is relaxed, look into your part­ners eyes (and I mean really look into their eyes) and start the con­ver­sa­tion with a sim­ple statement.

A state­ment like “It must be tir­ing for you to travel that dis­tance every sin­gle day.”

Or “The kids sure can be a hand­ful some­times, eh?”

Trust me. Even if it’s a plain state­ment about a daily occur­rence, they’ll appre­ci­ate the fact that you noticed.

The next step is LISTEN. They will most likely open up about the issue, and this is where empa­thy comes into play.

Be sup­port­ive. Lis­ten to what they’re say­ing, and offer solu­tions or sug­ges­tions when­ever possible.

Make sure they real­ize that you know where they’re com­ing from. If the chal­lenge they’re fac­ing stems from a fault of their own, gen­tly offer advice. Nobody likes to be talked down to.

And what do you do if they don’t open up about the issue? Just tell them you under­stand what they’re going through, and that you’re will­ing to help them if they need it. At the very least that’ll give them some food for thought.

And that’s all there is to it! Like I said, this is an essen­tial step to take before you start using my upcom­ing pro­gram, so I sin­cerely hope you’ll give it a try. It’s so sim­ple that if you can’t com­mit to this, I can safely say you are NOT com­mit­ted to hav­ing a pas­sion­ate and inti­mate relationship.

I’ll be back with the next Pas­sion Pledge tomor­row. Let me know how this one went for you in the com­ments section.

Burt

I’m very con­cerned about the results from my lat­est poll.

Here they are (fig­ures are approx­i­mate, and are cal­cu­lated based only on respon­dents who are cur­rently in a relationship):

Cat­e­gory 1–you love your part­ner, and enjoy an inti­mate and pas­sion­ate sex life:

30%

Cat­e­gory 2–you love your part­ner, but are con­sid­er­ably lack­ing in the inti­macy department:

55%

Cat­e­gory 3–you have major issues with your part­ner, and are on the verge of break­ing up:

15%

It seems clear to me now that a huge major­ity of peo­ple are not enjoy­ing the kind of inti­macy they should.

I can’t say I’m sur­prised after hear­ing about sim­i­lar results from the sem­i­nar my friend attended. But please, take it from me:

This sit­u­a­tion can­not continue.

As I said in my pre­vi­ous blog post–without a healthy sex life, your life will never be truly ful­filled.

Let me clar­ify that state­ment, because I saw some com­ments from peo­ple on my pre­vi­ous blog post men­tion­ing they or their part­ners were inca­pable of hav­ing sex, or they had made a deci­sion to remain celi­bate for per­sonal or reli­gious reasons.

When I say your life will never be truly ful­filled, I’m refer­ring to those who are per­fectly capa­ble of hav­ing a healthy sex life, but for one rea­son or another, are leav­ing it out of their lives.

Peo­ple tend to give many rea­sons for this. Some blame their age. Some say they’ve been mar­ried for too long. Some say they’ve lost inter­est in sex. And the list goes on and on and on…

Now for­give me for being blunt, but none of these excuses are valid. Not one bit.

If you have a part­ner, and you’re phys­i­cally capa­ble of inti­macy, you have absolutely no excuse not to be enjoy­ing one of life’s great­est pleasures.

I know inti­macy is not always easy, so I’ve decided to come up with a pro­gram to help you over­come all of these excuses, and start enjoy­ing mind-blowing sex, every day for the rest of your life.

And even if you’re sin­gle, don’t feel left out. This pro­gram will help you man­i­fest the per­fect rela­tion­ship that starts with amaz­ing pas­sion and intimacy.

I’ll be releas­ing my pro­gram on Wednes­day, May 27th at 10:00AM (East­ern Stan­dard Time), so pre­pare your­self and keep your eyes peeled for updates

In the mean­time, I’d like to know what prob­lems you’re fac­ing in your sex life. Is there a lack of pas­sion? Have you lost inter­est? Is your part­ner mak­ing things difficult?

Let me know in the com­ments sec­tion below. I’ll be answer­ing the most press­ing ques­tions I receive from you here and includ­ing them as an added bonus when you get my upcom­ing pro­gram on May, 27th.

I sin­cerely hope you’ll take this chance to ask me any­thing, no mat­ter how pri­vate or inti­mate it may be. Remem­ber, your iden­tity will remain com­pletely anony­mous, and it’s not every day you get to ask these sort of ques­tions anonymously.

Look­ing for­ward to hear­ing from you, I’ll be in touch soon.

Burt

After attend­ing a sem­i­nar by one of the top per­sonal devel­op­ment gurus in the world, my friend recounted to me this story.

In the mid­dle of the sem­i­nar, the guru asked every­one who was either mar­ried or in a rela­tion­ship to stand up.

He then asked them to pick one of three cat­e­gories they felt their rela­tion­ship fell into:

Cat­e­gory 1 was those who loved their part­ners, and enjoyed inti­mate and pas­sion­ate sex lives.

Cat­e­gory 2 was those who loved their part­ners, but were con­sid­er­ably lack­ing in the inti­macy department.

Cat­e­gory 3 was those who were on the verge of break­ing up.

The result?

• 10 per­cent of peo­ple picked Cat­e­gory 1.
• 10 per­cent of peo­ple picked Cat­e­gory 3.
• And a whop­ping 80 per­cent of peo­ple picked Cat­e­gory 2!

I was alarmed to say the least by these results.

If they’re at all indica­tive of every­one else in the world, this means 8 in 10 peo­ple out there has a poor sex life.

I don’t mean to make you uncom­fort­able by bring­ing up this sub­ject, but believe me–you can be as suc­cess­ful, enlight­ened, happy and healthy as humanly pos­si­ble, but if you’re not enjoy­ing mind-blowing sex with your part­ner on a reg­u­lar basis, your life will never be truly ful­filled.

Because rela­tion­ships are the most impor­tant part of anyone’s life.

It doesn’t mat­ter how old you are or how long you’ve been together. Inti­macy should last a life­time, whether you’re in your 20’s, 50’s, or even 80’s.

And yes, in case you were won­der­ing, I’m doing great in that department.

So now, let me ask you the exact same ques­tion that guru did to his audience.

Please answer with total hon­estly. Your iden­tity will remain anonymous.

You’ll be hear­ing from me soon.

Burt