It’ll take me some time to go through all the ques­tions you asked in the pre­vi­ous blog post, but I know you need help so I’ve pre­pared some­thing for you.

It’s an exer­cise I call The 3 Pas­sion Pledges, and it’s the first step you must take before you get my upcom­ing pro­gram at 10am (EST), on the 27th of May.

It has helped a num­ber of my close friends improve their rela­tion­ship by leaps and bounds, and I’m sure it’ll do the same for you.

All you have to do is com­plete 3 sim­ple tasks over the next 3 days. Don’t worry, they won’t be too hard. I’m not going to ask you to rent an air­plane and paint your lover’s name across the sky

So let’s get started. Pledge num­ber one is oh-so-easy, but when done right will undoubt­edly put a grate­ful smile on your partner’s face…

The Mind­ful­ness Exercise

First, spend 5 min­utes think­ing about what chal­lenges your part­ner faces in his or her life.

• Do they have a stress­ful job?
• Do they have to go through heavy traf­fic, or a busy com­mute every day?
• Are they con­stantly bogged down with house chores?
• Kids?
• Health issues?

Once you’ve iden­ti­fied these chal­lenges, pick one (prefer­ably the one they seem both­ered about most), and talk to them about it.

Don’t over­com­pli­cate things. All you have to do is find an appro­pri­ate time, when he or she is relaxed, look into your part­ners eyes (and I mean really look into their eyes) and start the con­ver­sa­tion with a sim­ple statement.

A state­ment like “It must be tir­ing for you to travel that dis­tance every sin­gle day.”

Or “The kids sure can be a hand­ful some­times, eh?”

Trust me. Even if it’s a plain state­ment about a daily occur­rence, they’ll appre­ci­ate the fact that you noticed.

The next step is LISTEN. They will most likely open up about the issue, and this is where empa­thy comes into play.

Be sup­port­ive. Lis­ten to what they’re say­ing, and offer solu­tions or sug­ges­tions when­ever possible.

Make sure they real­ize that you know where they’re com­ing from. If the chal­lenge they’re fac­ing stems from a fault of their own, gen­tly offer advice. Nobody likes to be talked down to.

And what do you do if they don’t open up about the issue? Just tell them you under­stand what they’re going through, and that you’re will­ing to help them if they need it. At the very least that’ll give them some food for thought.

And that’s all there is to it! Like I said, this is an essen­tial step to take before you start using my upcom­ing pro­gram, so I sin­cerely hope you’ll give it a try. It’s so sim­ple that if you can’t com­mit to this, I can safely say you are NOT com­mit­ted to hav­ing a pas­sion­ate and inti­mate relationship.

I’ll be back with the next Pas­sion Pledge tomor­row. Let me know how this one went for you in the com­ments section.

Burt