I hope you’ve made the commitment to using the Passion Pledges.
Remember, it’s a very important step before you start using my upcoming program, and it’s a great kickstart to regaining the intimacy and passion in your relationship.
So now that we’re done with Passion Pledge number one, we’ll move on to the second one. And this one is perhaps even simpler than the first.
The Compliment Exercise
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Think about something you could say to your partner that would make them know you love, admire and appreciate them.
It could be a physical complement. For example, you could tell them you’ve always loved the way their eyes sparkle when they smile. Or how even after all these years, their legs are still as sexy as ever 
It could also be a complement on their talents or abilities. If they cook, you could remind them you absolutely love the food they make. If they work in an office, you could tell them you admire the dedication it must take to get all that work done in one day.
The more specific you are with your complement, the better.
Don’t say something that could come across as insincere. Your complement should be about your partner as a person, so instead of saying “Nice shoes honey,” you could say “I love your taste in shoes. You know exactly what to pick to make yourself look even more gorgeous.”
A complement works best when your partner is relaxed. Try this exercise at a time when both of you are at ease, which could be during breakfast, during a night out, or even when you’re getting ready for bed.
All you have to do is get their attention, look into their eyes, and most importantly, say it like you mean it.
Who knows, your partner might give you a nice reward for it 
Remember, my program will be ready for you at 10:00AM (EST) on May 27th. Until then, keep yourself busy with the Passion Pledges, and look out for the signs of intimacy and passion flowing back into your relationship.
The third and final Passion Pledge will be up tomorrow.
Burt
My name is Burt Goldman. I’m one of those “lucky people” who discovered a secret early in life. For the last 50 years, I have been traveling the world and meeting and studying spiritual masters from every inch of our planet. Now, at the age of 82, I’m ready to share with the world what I have learned. I started this blog to be able to share with you my most valuable teachings and insights I have gained over the past few decades. Here, you’ll find plenty of valuable information on meditation, energy healing, spirituality, and my latest revelation, Quantum Jumping. I look forward to connecting with you and I sincerely hope you enjoy being a part of this blog.
Seasons greeting and all the best wishes to you
I would like to buy your 6 cd quantum jumping set to be sent by mail to my address. How do i do this and is the price $97.00?
I am looking forward to learning your teachings, as a small child would leave my body to survive what was happening to me, in my late 20’s I quit doing it because I felt safe for the first time in my life.
I believe what you are teaching is something we all have in us and are capable of doing, I just need a guide and it sounds like you are the one I’m looking for.
Thanks for being there when I was not aware that I was looking.
jeannie smith
Hi Burt — I am so sorry but have had bad problems with my computer and have not gotten all of the messages, but did read No. 7 and so totally agree.
It has been a very long journey with many setbacks — my life that is. Somehow, someway have been willing to learn from all my experiences, good and bad and have found very rewarding just to be able to let go all the way and too remember it is only one day at a time, which our main concern. After that most things just fall into place and I walk with my head held high and a brisk step.
Since I have missed a few of the lessons wonder if I could go thru a refresher course, thanks again for being who you are.
Blessings in love and light. Jackie
This is also meant as an answer to Bridget.
I am a Reiki healer too and yes we do attract people that are in need, because that is what we focus on.
I have recently learned to look differently at those people to and not just try to find what I can do for them, but also what they can do for me.
I give you an example.
Due to some financial problems we have now two of our friends living in our house in the spare bedroom, while they are looking for a new job they feel very awkward and feel like they are invading on us, which they are not.
But she kept asking me what she could do for us in return and bit by bit I was able to let go of some of my reservations and tasks and they now take care of most of the household chores (which I do not like doing at all) like washing up, cleaning, doing the shopping etc, which in return gives us more time and space to do some more work and fun things.
They feel less awkward and are more comfortable around us and we all benefit from this arrangement.
We are still helping them in their difficult situation but in return they make our situation easier. I must admit I will be very sorry to see them go again, because you easily get used to certain situations.
It is all about love and giving, but also about receiving. How can you ever allow a person to show their feelings and appreciation to you if you to not allow yourself to receive in return to the giving? You will be doing a wrong to the other person and to yourself.
So now when I meet people that need my help I look for what they can do in return to me, not so much for me, but it makes it easier for them to accept my help and they feel a whole lot better about themselves to.
I do not ask for anything in return, but when they ask if there is anything they can do for me I have an answer ready for them that is within their means and capabilities. Instant mutual benefit.
I hope the world will become more of a trading place in the future, without any money, I feel that there will be more benefit into this for everyone.
This is a good reminder. When we first date, the
compliments are flying, respect is obvious and that is
part of what we loved about each other. However, after
we get married, and a number of years pass, we forget how we acted toward each other to gain the strong
feelings we shared.
My husband has repeatedly cheated on me, and now I find
it very hard to get back to “that place”. The trust is
lost, and resentment gets in the way of warm fuzzy
feelings. He has withdrawn, because he knows I don’t
think of him as the man I married. I try very hard though. I try to be positive, but have slip-ups on
occasion, because I feel he is still hiding stuff from
me. I think he is still “doing it”. It does go both
ways! He doesn’t treat me the way I should be treated.
Thank you Burt, for all your insight and “enlightenment”.
Thank you! Thank You! THANK YOU!
Very good advise…easy to do! Make sure that you do it with the right intent, sincere way that comes straight from your heart…Otherwise it will mean nothing at all…It will make you an hypocrite and on the long run will make you even more alone!
Like you said: “Stop the tragedy!”
dear burt…your blog is much to be appreciated an guided in the heart of what true love should be…but as such we all pick an choose our lives an loves.. an if we’re blessed with a true partner..what a gift an true experience of what gods love truly is..well..i can only say i,ve had experienced 1 true love that has given me the true virtuous qualites of love..but as we all know those fade on to the next love experience..an not like the last one..so my life with my present husband for 32 years has been a true knowledge of all the quailites of character i needed to be refined of..an they were of the mental abuse kind..so in my knowledge of god an what i needed to learn is still a hard one..but my hope in having true love is not given up an will happen for me even at 62.either with my husband or someone that god gives to me in my relief for the true meaning of what god says is how love should be like in a relationship.….….….
Hello Bert,
Thankyou for the wonderfull advice,its so simple but very effective in more ways than one!this piece of advice will help so many people,thankyou again x
Dear Burt,
I have lost my sexual intimacy with partner several years ago following 18 years of conflict and verbal violence.
I know I am not perfect. I have always considered that marriage is a space where married persons commit to deal their imperfection in a mutual trust and never a space where one partner craves to impose self and be always right condemning the other.I have tried my best to solve the conflicts and deal with the violence I was subjected too, but it seems to work only a while.
My partner lives in the past. Nothing I do seems to be appreciated. There is always something wrong with what I do, I say,even I think. I do wash the dishes and vacuum the house. But my partner will find something wrong and redo what I did, but my partner will go outside and tell whoever dares to listen that I don’t help at home.
My partner pretends to have God’s revelation of all what I do, I have done. And my partner expresses them during her high angry moments.
My partner used to send people to follow my activities and report. Bedtime or the morning are nightmare for me: instults and wrongdoings I did in the past abound. Sometimes I can not sleep or am awaken by my partner’s voices retracing all the wrongs I have done.
My partner does not hesitate to humiliate me before friends or guests. There is no longer cooperation, appreciation. Three years ago, I found out that my partner was filing for divorce. My sexual appetite for my partner has gone and my sexual instrument does not wake up any more even if my intention arouses.
We have been to counseling sessions, but since nobody condemns me, my partner is not happy with our counselors. We have been changing counselors.
My partner wants first our counselors to condemn me. Actually there is no way we can engage in a constructive talk.We can not agree on anything.
So what to do? Maybe we need a session with you Burt.
Thank you
Jean
I have found that listening (Lesson 1) and complimenting (Lesson 2) are valuable, but when they are not offered in return, and when the receiver comes to expect them as their “due”, there is a “backfire effect”.
Reciprocity is essential over the long-term, and I don’t mean quid pro quo, but something needs to come back to me. Yes, he’s busy. Yes, he’s this-or-that, but so am I. And without that return, well, it takes a committed person not to look elsewhere for a feeling of value.
Think your suggestions are wonderful… however it seems apparent that one must want to do it … lol .. and I have discovered, after 47 years and given our history… the love is there, like a family memember.. which of couse he is … but the passion isn’t…just not bringing myself to do this investigation again.. have done it many times over the years.. with pretty much the same results … the second suggestion I am willing to work with .… (interesting didn’t know this about myself until you started doing these) So always learning… and have set a course to uncover what and why I am having such strong feelings about not getting into it all again … Hugs Burt .. thanks again
hi my name is bridget i am a reiki healer
i also love reading selp help books
i am a carer for 30 years i look after my mum and dad my mum passed away 5 years ago my dad is 84 and is in very bad health i love writing poems and i love the silve system i got loads of there cds
i have 5 children and 10 grand kids and am dovorced
there is a qustion i would like to ask you all my life i have been carering for somebody but it just is weard that peopkle who need help always comes into my life
no matter who it is i would love to know is there people out there who attract people who need care just like me
thank you bridget
Hi Burt, I find it’s important to think of a way to remember your suggestions. So far there is appreciating someone’s problems, then there’s appreciating someone’s good points (like their legs), I wonder what the third passion pledge will be? Looking forward to it, Leila.
I always do these passion pledges. I like making people feel good about themselves. The only problem is it gives my man an ego and searches others out to tell him the same thing.
Hi Burt your second pledges is again true but all so you have to make sure you say it to the one you truly love because if you say it to a person you think you love and are not sure, there is a good chance that person will fall in love with you so be carefull to who you say it to. I know I tested before.
I really like these passion pledges. Straight forward and to the point. Appreciation is important for everyone.
I like it that you remind us to make the compliment specifically about the person. It’s so good when the person can really receive and take in the compliment as a gift too.
Dhiraj
Appreciation is very important to a man and so is respect. So I would say if you are referring to a woman let her know how much you understand and support her needs, wants and ideas or things she does.