Comments on: The 3 Passion Pledges – Pledge 2 http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/the-3-passion-pledges-pledge-2/ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:14:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: mohiddin basha syed http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/the-3-passion-pledges-pledge-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8844 mohiddin basha syed Mon, 22 Jun 2009 07:11:45 +0000 http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/?p=552#comment-8844 Seasons greeting and all the best wishes to you Seasons greeting and all the best wishes to you

]]> By: jeanette smith http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/the-3-passion-pledges-pledge-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8361 jeanette smith Sat, 06 Jun 2009 23:36:27 +0000 http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/?p=552#comment-8361 I would like to buy your 6 cd quantum jumping set to be sent by mail to my address. How do i do this and is the price $97.00? I am looking forward to learning your teachings, as a small child would leave my body to survive what was happening to me, in my late 20's I quit doing it because I felt safe for the first time in my life. I believe what you are teaching is something we all have in us and are capable of doing, I just need a guide and it sounds like you are the one I'm looking for. Thanks for being there when I was not aware that I was looking. jeannie smith I would like to buy your 6 cd quantum jumping set to be sent by mail to my address. How do i do this and is the price $97.00?
I am looking forward to learning your teachings, as a small child would leave my body to survive what was happening to me, in my late 20's I quit doing it because I felt safe for the first time in my life.
I believe what you are teaching is something we all have in us and are capable of doing, I just need a guide and it sounds like you are the one I'm looking for.
Thanks for being there when I was not aware that I was looking.
jeannie smith

]]> By: Jackie ONeil http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/the-3-passion-pledges-pledge-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8301 Jackie ONeil Wed, 27 May 2009 07:01:46 +0000 http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/?p=552#comment-8301 Hi Burt - I am so sorry but have had bad problems with my computer and have not gotten all of the messages, but did read No. 7 and so totally agree. It has been a very long journey with many setbacks - my life that is. Somehow, someway have been willing to learn from all my experiences, good and bad and have found very rewarding just to be able to let go all the way and too remember it is only one day at a time, which our main concern. After that most things just fall into place and I walk with my head held high and a brisk step. Since I have missed a few of the lessons wonder if I could go thru a refresher course, thanks again for being who you are. Blessings in love and light. Jackie Hi Burt - I am so sorry but have had bad problems with my computer and have not gotten all of the messages, but did read No. 7 and so totally agree.
It has been a very long journey with many setbacks - my life that is. Somehow, someway have been willing to learn from all my experiences, good and bad and have found very rewarding just to be able to let go all the way and too remember it is only one day at a time, which our main concern. After that most things just fall into place and I walk with my head held high and a brisk step.
Since I have missed a few of the lessons wonder if I could go thru a refresher course, thanks again for being who you are.
Blessings in love and light. Jackie

]]> By: Mary-Ann http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/the-3-passion-pledges-pledge-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8285 Mary-Ann Mon, 25 May 2009 11:48:55 +0000 http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/?p=552#comment-8285 This is also meant as an answer to Bridget. I am a Reiki healer too and yes we do attract people that are in need, because that is what we focus on. I have recently learned to look differently at those people to and not just try to find what I can do for them, but also what they can do for me. I give you an example. Due to some financial problems we have now two of our friends living in our house in the spare bedroom, while they are looking for a new job they feel very awkward and feel like they are invading on us, which they are not. But she kept asking me what she could do for us in return and bit by bit I was able to let go of some of my reservations and tasks and they now take care of most of the household chores (which I do not like doing at all) like washing up, cleaning, doing the shopping etc, which in return gives us more time and space to do some more work and fun things. They feel less awkward and are more comfortable around us and we all benefit from this arrangement. We are still helping them in their difficult situation but in return they make our situation easier. I must admit I will be very sorry to see them go again, because you easily get used to certain situations. It is all about love and giving, but also about receiving. How can you ever allow a person to show their feelings and appreciation to you if you to not allow yourself to receive in return to the giving? You will be doing a wrong to the other person and to yourself. So now when I meet people that need my help I look for what they can do in return to me, not so much for me, but it makes it easier for them to accept my help and they feel a whole lot better about themselves to. I do not ask for anything in return, but when they ask if there is anything they can do for me I have an answer ready for them that is within their means and capabilities. Instant mutual benefit. I hope the world will become more of a trading place in the future, without any money, I feel that there will be more benefit into this for everyone. This is also meant as an answer to Bridget.
I am a Reiki healer too and yes we do attract people that are in need, because that is what we focus on.
I have recently learned to look differently at those people to and not just try to find what I can do for them, but also what they can do for me.
I give you an example.
Due to some financial problems we have now two of our friends living in our house in the spare bedroom, while they are looking for a new job they feel very awkward and feel like they are invading on us, which they are not.
But she kept asking me what she could do for us in return and bit by bit I was able to let go of some of my reservations and tasks and they now take care of most of the household chores (which I do not like doing at all) like washing up, cleaning, doing the shopping etc, which in return gives us more time and space to do some more work and fun things.
They feel less awkward and are more comfortable around us and we all benefit from this arrangement.
We are still helping them in their difficult situation but in return they make our situation easier. I must admit I will be very sorry to see them go again, because you easily get used to certain situations.
It is all about love and giving, but also about receiving. How can you ever allow a person to show their feelings and appreciation to you if you to not allow yourself to receive in return to the giving? You will be doing a wrong to the other person and to yourself.
So now when I meet people that need my help I look for what they can do in return to me, not so much for me, but it makes it easier for them to accept my help and they feel a whole lot better about themselves to.
I do not ask for anything in return, but when they ask if there is anything they can do for me I have an answer ready for them that is within their means and capabilities. Instant mutual benefit.
I hope the world will become more of a trading place in the future, without any money, I feel that there will be more benefit into this for everyone.

]]> By: Linda B http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/the-3-passion-pledges-pledge-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8275 Linda B Sun, 24 May 2009 11:40:14 +0000 http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/?p=552#comment-8275 This is a good reminder. When we first date, the compliments are flying, respect is obvious and that is part of what we loved about each other. However, after we get married, and a number of years pass, we forget how we acted toward each other to gain the strong feelings we shared. My husband has repeatedly cheated on me, and now I find it very hard to get back to "that place". The trust is lost, and resentment gets in the way of warm fuzzy feelings. He has withdrawn, because he knows I don't think of him as the man I married. I try very hard though. I try to be positive, but have slip-ups on occasion, because I feel he is still hiding stuff from me. I think he is still "doing it". It does go both ways! He doesn't treat me the way I should be treated. Thank you Burt, for all your insight and "enlightenment". This is a good reminder. When we first date, the
compliments are flying, respect is obvious and that is
part of what we loved about each other. However, after
we get married, and a number of years pass, we forget how we acted toward each other to gain the strong
feelings we shared.
My husband has repeatedly cheated on me, and now I find
it very hard to get back to "that place". The trust is
lost, and resentment gets in the way of warm fuzzy
feelings. He has withdrawn, because he knows I don't
think of him as the man I married. I try very hard though. I try to be positive, but have slip-ups on
occasion, because I feel he is still hiding stuff from
me. I think he is still "doing it". It does go both
ways! He doesn't treat me the way I should be treated.
Thank you Burt, for all your insight and "enlightenment".

]]> By: Star444 http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/the-3-passion-pledges-pledge-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8264 Star444 Sat, 23 May 2009 19:55:41 +0000 http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/?p=552#comment-8264 Thank you! Thank You! THANK YOU! Very good advise...easy to do! Make sure that you do it with the right intent, sincere way that comes straight from your heart...Otherwise it will mean nothing at all...It will make you an hypocrite and on the long run will make you even more alone! Like you said: "Stop the tragedy!" Thank you! Thank You! THANK YOU!
Very good advise...easy to do! Make sure that you do it with the right intent, sincere way that comes straight from your heart...Otherwise it will mean nothing at all...It will make you an hypocrite and on the long run will make you even more alone!
Like you said: "Stop the tragedy!"

]]> By: josi http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/the-3-passion-pledges-pledge-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8251 josi Sat, 23 May 2009 04:05:33 +0000 http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/?p=552#comment-8251 dear burt...your blog is much to be appreciated an guided in the heart of what true love should be...but as such we all pick an choose our lives an loves.. an if we're blessed with a true partner..what a gift an true experience of what gods love truly is..well..i can only say i,ve had experienced 1 true love that has given me the true virtuous qualites of love..but as we all know those fade on to the next love experience..an not like the last one..so my life with my present husband for 32 years has been a true knowledge of all the quailites of character i needed to be refined of..an they were of the mental abuse kind..so in my knowledge of god an what i needed to learn is still a hard one..but my hope in having true love is not given up an will happen for me even at 62.either with my husband or someone that god gives to me in my relief for the true meaning of what god says is how love should be like in a relationship............. dear burt...your blog is much to be appreciated an guided in the heart of what true love should be...but as such we all pick an choose our lives an loves.. an if we're blessed with a true partner..what a gift an true experience of what gods love truly is..well..i can only say i,ve had experienced 1 true love that has given me the true virtuous qualites of love..but as we all know those fade on to the next love experience..an not like the last one..so my life with my present husband for 32 years has been a true knowledge of all the quailites of character i needed to be refined of..an they were of the mental abuse kind..so in my knowledge of god an what i needed to learn is still a hard one..but my hope in having true love is not given up an will happen for me even at 62.either with my husband or someone that god gives to me in my relief for the true meaning of what god says is how love should be like in a relationship.............

]]> By: Rose http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/the-3-passion-pledges-pledge-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8249 Rose Sat, 23 May 2009 00:31:31 +0000 http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/?p=552#comment-8249 Hello Bert, Thankyou for the wonderfull advice,its so simple but very effective in more ways than one!this piece of advice will help so many people,thankyou again x Hello Bert,
Thankyou for the wonderfull advice,its so simple but very effective in more ways than one!this piece of advice will help so many people,thankyou again x

]]> By: Jean http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/the-3-passion-pledges-pledge-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8245 Jean Fri, 22 May 2009 16:49:24 +0000 http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/?p=552#comment-8245 Dear Burt, I have lost my sexual intimacy with partner several years ago following 18 years of conflict and verbal violence. I know I am not perfect. I have always considered that marriage is a space where married persons commit to deal their imperfection in a mutual trust and never a space where one partner craves to impose self and be always right condemning the other.I have tried my best to solve the conflicts and deal with the violence I was subjected too, but it seems to work only a while. My partner lives in the past. Nothing I do seems to be appreciated. There is always something wrong with what I do, I say,even I think. I do wash the dishes and vacuum the house. But my partner will find something wrong and redo what I did, but my partner will go outside and tell whoever dares to listen that I don't help at home. My partner pretends to have God's revelation of all what I do, I have done. And my partner expresses them during her high angry moments. My partner used to send people to follow my activities and report. Bedtime or the morning are nightmare for me: instults and wrongdoings I did in the past abound. Sometimes I can not sleep or am awaken by my partner's voices retracing all the wrongs I have done. My partner does not hesitate to humiliate me before friends or guests. There is no longer cooperation, appreciation. Three years ago, I found out that my partner was filing for divorce. My sexual appetite for my partner has gone and my sexual instrument does not wake up any more even if my intention arouses. We have been to counseling sessions, but since nobody condemns me, my partner is not happy with our counselors. We have been changing counselors. My partner wants first our counselors to condemn me. Actually there is no way we can engage in a constructive talk.We can not agree on anything. So what to do? Maybe we need a session with you Burt. Thank you Jean Dear Burt,

I have lost my sexual intimacy with partner several years ago following 18 years of conflict and verbal violence.

I know I am not perfect. I have always considered that marriage is a space where married persons commit to deal their imperfection in a mutual trust and never a space where one partner craves to impose self and be always right condemning the other.I have tried my best to solve the conflicts and deal with the violence I was subjected too, but it seems to work only a while.

My partner lives in the past. Nothing I do seems to be appreciated. There is always something wrong with what I do, I say,even I think. I do wash the dishes and vacuum the house. But my partner will find something wrong and redo what I did, but my partner will go outside and tell whoever dares to listen that I don't help at home.

My partner pretends to have God's revelation of all what I do, I have done. And my partner expresses them during her high angry moments.

My partner used to send people to follow my activities and report. Bedtime or the morning are nightmare for me: instults and wrongdoings I did in the past abound. Sometimes I can not sleep or am awaken by my partner's voices retracing all the wrongs I have done.

My partner does not hesitate to humiliate me before friends or guests. There is no longer cooperation, appreciation. Three years ago, I found out that my partner was filing for divorce. My sexual appetite for my partner has gone and my sexual instrument does not wake up any more even if my intention arouses.

We have been to counseling sessions, but since nobody condemns me, my partner is not happy with our counselors. We have been changing counselors.

My partner wants first our counselors to condemn me. Actually there is no way we can engage in a constructive talk.We can not agree on anything.

So what to do? Maybe we need a session with you Burt.
Thank you
Jean

]]> By: Karen http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/the-3-passion-pledges-pledge-2/comment-page-1/#comment-8244 Karen Fri, 22 May 2009 16:29:53 +0000 http://blog.theamericanmonk.com/?p=552#comment-8244 I have found that listening (Lesson 1) and complimenting (Lesson 2) are valuable, but when they are not offered in return, and when the receiver comes to expect them as their "due", there is a "backfire effect". Reciprocity is essential over the long-term, and I don't mean quid pro quo, but something needs to come back to me. Yes, he's busy. Yes, he's this-or-that, but so am I. And without that return, well, it takes a committed person not to look elsewhere for a feeling of value. I have found that listening (Lesson 1) and complimenting (Lesson 2) are valuable, but when they are not offered in return, and when the receiver comes to expect them as their "due", there is a "backfire effect".

Reciprocity is essential over the long-term, and I don't mean quid pro quo, but something needs to come back to me. Yes, he's busy. Yes, he's this-or-that, but so am I. And without that return, well, it takes a committed person not to look elsewhere for a feeling of value.

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