Now we are at the third and final Passion Pledge.
But before we begin, did you commit to the first two? What sort of results did you get?
The third Passion Pledge is perhaps the most powerful. And it may also be the most challenging.
The Intimacy Exercise
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This may be something you're not used to. And if that's the case, trust me--you must get used to it, because it's an irreplaceable ingredient to a lifetime of intimacy and passion.
Now here's what you do:
Talk to your partner about your sex life. Don't beat around the bush, don't cover it up with analogies, and get ready to be as honest and open as possible.
- Ask them if they've been enjoying it.
- Ask them if there's anything they think could make it better.
- Ask them if they'd like to do it more often.
Listen to their answers, and give your own opinions. Be honest, but remember to be sensitive to their feelings. Refrain from talking in an accusatory tone.
Remember, you love each other. You're a team, and you're doing this to make each other happier, more fulfilled individuals.
If there's a problem, talk about how you can work together to fix it.
If there's no problem, talk about how you can make things even better.
The solution may not always be immediately visible, but that doesn't mean there isn't one.
When two people are willing to give their all, there will always be a solution.
Being open with one another is an important first step to regaining a passionate relationship.
The next step, which I guarantee will energize your relationship with endless passion and intimacy, is coming soon. You'll discover it once you start my program, which will be released at 10:00AM (EST) on the 27th of May.
I'll be in touch.
Burt
My name is Burt Goldman. I’m one of those “lucky people” who discovered a secret early in life. For the last 50 years, I have been traveling the world and meeting and studying spiritual masters from every inch of our planet. Now, at the age of 82, I'm ready to share with the world what I have learned. I started this blog to be able to share with you my most valuable teachings and insights I have gained over the past few decades. Here, you'll find plenty of valuable information on meditation, energy healing, spirituality, and my latest revelation, Quantum Jumping. I look forward to connecting with you and I sincerely hope you enjoy being a part of this blog.
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I thought lack of chemistry was a factor also. One or both partners should do some research and discover how to turn the other on. Lack of chemistry is then NOT A FACTOR.
I'm confused over the term desirelessness, if sex is a desire...
Are we utltimately called to go beyond sex which can
be EGO thinking of the self?
Hi Burt,
I just wanted to say I tried the daisy pond and it worked great for me. Now, I will get to the mediative state. I am really excited. I am starting to open up to my husband more.
THE LACK OF CHEMISTRY SEEMS TO BE A BIG FACTOR
Hi Bert
thankyou for the ideas on sex ,i will give it a go!,
A little less talk and a lot of more action please ! One trick pony and romancing demands - is in my opinion so much passe..excuses of the lamest kind..blame your partner. men and women are different..all the mars and venus trap.
Physical contact is a must is sex is the goal..
1. begin to like and be liked touching each other (again).
2. begin to like and be liked touching each other in erogenous areas (again.)
3. learn to art of having sex..since it is going to be a long while before they offer these courses for pre-marital or consentious couples.
4. younger couples protect each other from diseases and pregnancies. men - stop griping about condoms. Sex should be deliberate rather than in the heat of passion. Those look good in the movies..in real life usually pre-mature ejaculation..
5. body massage should be taken as a minor in college. it does so many wonderful thing. it is under appreciated.
6. learn yoni, lingam, prostate massages. you will find plenty posted on the internet.learn sexual responses of both gender. it will foster better communications and enjoyment.
7. add a little music, a little wine, a little perfume a lot of attitude change.
8. take responsibility of your health, your appearance, show respect and appreciation for the giver and the recipient.
9. if one still cannot agree with this post..be reminded that sex is a activity..stop talking and start doing. start with massages, touching, dancing..
10.repeat #1-#9 as often as possible.
Hi Burt,
It was intresting to read through all the pledges the truth is i do hope they will work when the right time comes ,i just dont know but i have never ever enjoyed sex,so i gave up having it,my first time to have sex was the worst night mare thought it would pass and things would get better but mmmmh! no nothing i had to fake i was sick 24/7 so reading through your pledges am thinking do they seriously work?not sure will have to try.
LOl, Thanks Burt,
This is again a daily chat for us.I give out a lot of the same advice as your 3 passion promises.I know I am the extremely open one in my family.I get all the nieces,nephews,kids friends as well as open questions about sex ,passion,love and intimacy.This is one thing I have always tried to tell all of them.Open communication.... Talk openly about your desires with your partner will make for the mind blowing good times your looking for.
I have to admit Burt, it is nice to read that a gentleman like yourself gives the same type of advice I have.It makes me feel that Yes, I have been doing well both practicing my life concepts and passing them along.
I look very forward to the next lesson...
Thank YOu
Miss
Well I thought i had an intimate relationship till i came to pick my boyfriend up from work, he wasnt there and then i found him at his place with a new girl, (still wearing my track suit) ive decided its over.
As always Burt, you have spoken truth with all of your readers. I agree with your suggestions and look forward to being reunited with the love of my life. We have used these techniques in our relationship previously and it has led to the most wonderful of unions.
You really know how to scare a girl!!! Speak out loud about an intimate topic? A worthy challenge, but - well, rekindling a fire on cold, soggy ashes isn't going to be easy. Perhaps it will be worth it. I look forward to the rest of your ideas
There's no chemistry?? We're nice and loving and cuddle but there isn't any chemistry on my part. He does everything right.
I get that it's me but?Where can I view the 1st 2 passion pledges?
I don't see how to "submit this
Well Burt I read about your third Passion Pledge just three hours ago. What a great suggestion. So immediately I told my partner about your pledges and suggested we follow your suggested three questions.
We had a really interesting conversation. I love to learn what she really thinks and feels as opposed to just guessing or projecting. We used your earlier suggestion of looking into each others eyes and listening from a place of full prescence. Just that is like paying each other a silent compliment. We were both happy that we had the conversation which we were lucky to have forty five minutes to devote to.
Hi Burt,
I have a little different situation, however, since more people are experiencing the effects of dementia (non-Alzheimer's, non-Parkinson's) these days I know I'm not alone.
My partner has beginning mid stage dementia. He does have cognizant days still and his memory is intact when he is more aware. I worked the first 2 steps with him and I was amazed at the difference in him AND myself. I figured I had nothing left to lose so I went for it. It was the best 2 days we've had in quite a few months.
Looking at the 3rd step I realize I'll have to get a bit creative. He lives in a care facility and is physically unable to come home now (although we're working on that). So it may take a few days before I can work this step. But it is possible to do.
I write this because you may have to tweak the questions a bit, but the essence is to experience intimacy on all levels and THAT can be done. Just takes a bit of creative thinking and action.
Thanks,
Linda
Hi Burt,
Here are my thoughts on sexual intimacy and what has made it successful in my life during the times I have been with a partner,
Speaking as a woman, which is the only way I can speak in this lifetime, I know that the best sex I have is when I am in total harmony and in a tight spiritual communication with my partner. If it is the right partner, he reads my energy and I read his and we each work it into an escalating thunder that leaves us both wallowing in afterglow, feeling closer than before. My primary suggestion to men; don’t be a one-trick pony. Just because something worked once, doesn’t mean that it will work again. It was probably the element of surprise that made it work the first time. I get bored with a lover who takes the same path each time we are being sexual. I refrain from calling this love-making because this type of sex is mundane and not something that has the emotional and spiritual communication channels open. Sex is best for me when I am consumed with my partner, when I feel every molecule of his being interacting with mine and when I feel our souls are in a cohesive communication. It is these times when my orgasms are explosive, it is these times when I will do all in my power to ensure that his are explosive as well. The ebb and flow between us is like a dance and our breath and heartbeats, our own personal song.
I think that many men, on the other hand, seem okay with a partner who is a one-trick pony, as long as her trick has him screaming to the finish line. I think this can be confusing to a man if a woman does not make her desires known. Women are different than men and we achieve orgasm in a different way. Men are physical by nature, women, more mental and this reality carries over into our sex lives as well. Women need romance to connect and romance does not start somewhere between finishing doing the dinner dishes and Jay Leno’s opening monologue. Romance is a full time job if men want true intimacy with their woman. My advice to women; don’t insult your lover by faking an orgasm. Take time to explain to him that you are probably not going to pop the “Big O” every time, but that certainly does not mean that you are not enjoying the intimacy, tenderness and communication that you share in these times. If you fake, you will begin to pull away from sex because you are not feeling fulfilled, you are frustrated, you are bored with your routine to satisfy him and you will begin to feel as though this has developed into a chore. What once brought you closer together now pulls you apart. How would your partner ever know you were not satisfied if you are responding as though you are knocking on heaven’s door every time you are sexual together? Honesty, particularly in such a sensitive part of a relationship is paramount.
Well Burt this one I never thought this would be the # 3 I did this one long time ago all do it is true it can all so be destructive it only work if the two person are on the same vibration if not they other person will say that you are a perverbe or dirty mindet person but it still a good way to go and I would recomendet to anybody who is open mindet thank you.
The 3 Passion Pledges are right on with regard to keeping love and passion alive, but as another person noted in a comment under Passion Pledge 2, you have to have a willing participant who wants to be with you for them to work. I tried all of these things, just by instinct, in my marriage of 27 years to no avail, and realized that it was perhaps time to say good-bye. My new partner is receptive and loving with a love that I have learned I never knew before--I would call it spiritual. In this relationship, these Passion Pledges work--we practice them everyday.
This would be a good way to open up communication about something that may be causing problems - like lack of communication.
Always looking for new ways to improve and fire up the relationship ..... I have an great appetite for more ideas and knowledge . Thanks Burt for providing some great tips .......John