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robyn says

I thought lack of chem­istry was a fac­tor also. One or both part­ners should do some research and dis­cover how to turn the other on. Lack of chem­istry is then NOT A FACTOR.

Jerry says

I’m con­fused over the term desire­less­ness, if sex is a desire…
Are we utl­ti­mately called to go beyond sex which can
be EGO think­ing of the self?

Jewels says

Hi Burt,

I just wanted to say I tried the daisy pond and it worked great for me. Now, I will get to the media­tive state. I am really excited. I am start­ing to open up to my hus­band more.

CYNDI says

THE LACK OF CHEMISTRY SEEMS TO BE A BIG FACTOR

Rose says

Hi Bert

thankyou for the ideas on sex ‚i will give it a go!,

thanaw says

A lit­tle less talk and a lot of more action please ! One trick pony and romanc­ing demands — is in my opin­ion so much passe..excuses of the lamest kind..blame your part­ner. men and women are different..all the mars and venus trap.

Phys­i­cal con­tact is a must is sex is the goal..
1. begin to like and be liked touch­ing each other (again).
2. begin to like and be liked touch­ing each other in eroge­nous areas (again.)
3. learn to art of hav­ing sex..since it is going to be a long while before they offer these courses for pre-marital or con­sen­tious cou­ples.
4. younger cou­ples pro­tect each other from dis­eases and preg­nan­cies. men — stop grip­ing about con­doms. Sex should be delib­er­ate rather than in the heat of pas­sion. Those look good in the movies..in real life usu­ally pre-mature ejac­u­la­tion..
5. body mas­sage should be taken as a minor in col­lege. it does so many won­der­ful thing. it is under appre­ci­ated.
6. learn yoni, lingam, prostate mas­sages. you will find plenty posted on the internet.learn sex­ual responses of both gen­der. it will fos­ter bet­ter com­mu­ni­ca­tions and enjoy­ment.
7. add a lit­tle music, a lit­tle wine, a lit­tle per­fume a lot of atti­tude change.
8. take respon­si­bil­ity of your health, your appear­ance, show respect and appre­ci­a­tion for the giver and the recip­i­ent.
9. if one still can­not agree with this post..be reminded that sex is a activity..stop talk­ing and start doing. start with mas­sages, touch­ing, danc­ing..
10.repeat #1-#9 as often as possible.

Josephine says

Hi Burt,
It was intrest­ing to read through all the pledges the truth is i do hope they will work when the right time comes ‚i just dont know but i have never ever enjoyed sex,so i gave up hav­ing it,my first time to have sex was the worst night mare thought it would pass and things would get bet­ter but mmmmh! no noth­ing i had to fake i was sick 24/7 so read­ing through your pledges am think­ing do they seri­ously work?not sure will have to try.

Miss says

LOl, Thanks Burt,
This is again a daily chat for us.I give out a lot of the same advice as your 3 pas­sion promises.I know I am the extremely open one in my family.I get all the nieces,nephews,kids friends as well as open ques­tions about sex ‚passion,love and intimacy.This is one thing I have always tried to tell all of them.Open com­mu­ni­ca­tion.… Talk openly about your desires with your part­ner will make for the mind blow­ing good times your look­ing for.
I have to admit Burt, it is nice to read that a gen­tle­man like your­self gives the same type of advice I have.It makes me feel that Yes, I have been doing well both prac­tic­ing my life con­cepts and pass­ing them along.
I look very for­ward to the next les­son…
Thank YOu
Miss

yasmini says

Well I thought i had an inti­mate rela­tion­ship till i came to pick my boyfriend up from work, he wasnt there and then i found him at his place with a new girl, (still wear­ing my track suit) ive decided its over.

Keith says

As always Burt, you have spo­ken truth with all of your read­ers. I agree with your sug­ges­tions and look for­ward to being reunited with the love of my life. We have used these tech­niques in our rela­tion­ship pre­vi­ously and it has led to the most won­der­ful of unions.

Karen says

You really know how to scare a girl!!! Speak out loud about an inti­mate topic? A wor­thy chal­lenge, but — well, rekin­dling a fire on cold, soggy ashes isn’t going to be easy. Per­haps it will be worth it. I look for­ward to the rest of your ideas

Bobbi Dee says

There’s no chem­istry?? We’re nice and lov­ing and cud­dle but there isn’t any chem­istry on my part. He does every­thing right.

I get that it’s me but?Where can I view the 1st 2 pas­sion pledges?

I don’t see how to “sub­mit this

Dhiraj says

Well Burt I read about your third Pas­sion Pledge just three hours ago. What a great sug­ges­tion. So imme­di­ately I told my part­ner about your pledges and sug­gested we fol­low your sug­gested three ques­tions.
We had a really inter­est­ing con­ver­sa­tion. I love to learn what she really thinks and feels as opposed to just guess­ing or pro­ject­ing. We used your ear­lier sug­ges­tion of look­ing into each oth­ers eyes and lis­ten­ing from a place of full pres­cence. Just that is like pay­ing each other a silent com­pli­ment. We were both happy that we had the con­ver­sa­tion which we were lucky to have forty five min­utes to devote to.

Linda J says

Hi Burt,
I have a lit­tle dif­fer­ent sit­u­a­tion, how­ever, since more peo­ple are expe­ri­enc­ing the effects of demen­tia (non-Alzheimer’s, non-Parkinson’s) these days I know I’m not alone.

My part­ner has begin­ning mid stage demen­tia. He does have cog­nizant days still and his mem­ory is intact when he is more aware. I worked the first 2 steps with him and I was amazed at the dif­fer­ence in him AND myself. I fig­ured I had noth­ing left to lose so I went for it. It was the best 2 days we’ve had in quite a few months.

Look­ing at the 3rd step I real­ize I’ll have to get a bit cre­ative. He lives in a care facil­ity and is phys­i­cally unable to come home now (although we’re work­ing on that). So it may take a few days before I can work this step. But it is pos­si­ble to do.

I write this because you may have to tweak the ques­tions a bit, but the essence is to expe­ri­ence inti­macy on all lev­els and THAT can be done. Just takes a bit of cre­ative think­ing and action.

Thanks,
Linda

Sherry says

Hi Burt,
Here are my thoughts on sex­ual inti­macy and what has made it suc­cess­ful in my life dur­ing the times I have been with a partner,

Speak­ing as a woman, which is the only way I can speak in this life­time, I know that the best sex I have is when I am in total har­mony and in a tight spir­i­tual com­mu­ni­ca­tion with my part­ner. If it is the right part­ner, he reads my energy and I read his and we each work it into an esca­lat­ing thun­der that leaves us both wal­low­ing in after­glow, feel­ing closer than before. My pri­mary sug­ges­tion to men; don’t be a one-trick pony. Just because some­thing worked once, doesn’t mean that it will work again. It was prob­a­bly the ele­ment of sur­prise that made it work the first time. I get bored with a lover who takes the same path each time we are being sex­ual. I refrain from call­ing this love-making because this type of sex is mun­dane and not some­thing that has the emo­tional and spir­i­tual com­mu­ni­ca­tion chan­nels open. Sex is best for me when I am con­sumed with my part­ner, when I feel every mol­e­cule of his being inter­act­ing with mine and when I feel our souls are in a cohe­sive com­mu­ni­ca­tion. It is these times when my orgasms are explo­sive, it is these times when I will do all in my power to ensure that his are explo­sive as well. The ebb and flow between us is like a dance and our breath and heart­beats, our own per­sonal song.
I think that many men, on the other hand, seem okay with a part­ner who is a one-trick pony, as long as her trick has him scream­ing to the fin­ish line. I think this can be con­fus­ing to a man if a woman does not make her desires known. Women are dif­fer­ent than men and we achieve orgasm in a dif­fer­ent way. Men are phys­i­cal by nature, women, more men­tal and this real­ity car­ries over into our sex lives as well. Women need romance to con­nect and romance does not start some­where between fin­ish­ing doing the din­ner dishes and Jay Leno’s open­ing mono­logue. Romance is a full time job if men want true inti­macy with their woman. My advice to women; don’t insult your lover by fak­ing an orgasm. Take time to explain to him that you are prob­a­bly not going to pop the “Big O” every time, but that cer­tainly does not mean that you are not enjoy­ing the inti­macy, ten­der­ness and com­mu­ni­ca­tion that you share in these times. If you fake, you will begin to pull away from sex because you are not feel­ing ful­filled, you are frus­trated, you are bored with your rou­tine to sat­isfy him and you will begin to feel as though this has devel­oped into a chore. What once brought you closer together now pulls you apart. How would your part­ner ever know you were not sat­is­fied if you are respond­ing as though you are knock­ing on heaven’s door every time you are sex­ual together? Hon­esty, par­tic­u­larly in such a sen­si­tive part of a rela­tion­ship is paramount.

Levis says

Well Burt this one I never thought this would be the # 3 I did this one long time ago all do it is true it can all so be destruc­tive it only work if the two per­son are on the same vibra­tion if not they other per­son will say that you are a per­verbe or dirty min­det per­son but it still a good way to go and I would recomendet to any­body who is open min­det thank you.

Dee says

The 3 Pas­sion Pledges are right on with regard to keep­ing love and pas­sion alive, but as another per­son noted in a com­ment under Pas­sion Pledge 2, you have to have a will­ing par­tic­i­pant who wants to be with you for them to work. I tried all of these things, just by instinct, in my mar­riage of 27 years to no avail, and real­ized that it was per­haps time to say good-bye. My new part­ner is recep­tive and lov­ing with a love that I have learned I never knew before–I would call it spir­i­tual. In this rela­tion­ship, these Pas­sion Pledges work–we prac­tice them everyday.

Leila says

This would be a good way to open up com­mu­ni­ca­tion about some­thing that may be caus­ing prob­lems — like lack of communication.

John (Of Clowning Formulas) says

Always look­ing for new ways to improve and fire up the rela­tion­ship .…. I have an great appetite for more ideas and knowl­edge . Thanks Burt for pro­vid­ing some great tips .……John

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