64 Comments on “What Parenting Practices Do You Do to Help Your Kids Avoid the Genius Dip?” - Post your own?

Saleema says 1 year, 1 month ago

I have worked for the Head Start Project for nearly 30 years, starting as a volunteer, then teacher, lead teacher, family advocate, and center director.
I believe in the power of thought and the effect of words on the development of the self-concept and self-esteem of each individual. I also know for a fact that the "underprivileged" of our world are at greater risk to experience what Burt calls the "Genius Dip."
However, a more general obstacle, which I would like to call "Equal Opportunity Obstacle" is the absence of a sense of self-worth.
The feeling of being unimportant, of not being "instrumental" to the well-being of one self and to that of others is the biggest obstacle to personal and social development. It's the single most determinant element in the loss of the perfection we inherit at birth.
Probably, we all remember a time in our childhood when we felt invincible. Most of us chose to forget it, to avoid remembering the pain associated with the loss of it...
Cultivate the child within yourself and take the hand of your child, before he "crosses the streets"...

Amelia says 1 year, 4 months ago

Hi Burt

I've taught my children not to be sheep (followers), but to be individuals. I've also taught them spiritual insights from early on so that they can understand life and it's lessons better. In their spiritual studies, my children and I have all been taught to meditate to get answers, meditate to relax, as well as visualise and create our own destinies. My children are quicker to create their lives, and as for me, I'm slower on the uptake but getter there!

Kevin K. W. Ng says 1 year, 5 months ago

Mind is everything as nothing happens without the knowledge of Mind

Josey says 1 year, 5 months ago

Hi Burt,

Thanks for your willingness to do wonderful things for all our children!

I worked in the educational system for 16 years. It can be a very frustrating experience for an enlightened person. The self-fullfilling prophecy is alive and well in education and not in a good way. I've seen way to many children get labeled, formally or informally, as slow learners or learning disabled. Once that label gets attached, the child's academic life can began a downward spiral.

Now for the good news! All it takes is someone to believe in the child and to teach them at their educational level and a whole new student emerges!

I could probably fill books on what I've seen that discourages learning as well as what truly motivates the so-called "slow learners". The problem I always ran into was lack of time for teachers, due to having to meet criteria for the dreaded outcomes based (testing) education, and/or too many "slow learners" in one classroom.

The solution? Education can no longer be "one size fits all". That is a factory-based educational method that does not address the needs of gifted or underachieving students. We must have individualized education for all! It can be done with the use of technology that is available at this time! We can no longer continue sending children on to higher grades when they have, in no way, mastered the lessons presented in their current grade. We need to address every student's abilities at their current educational level. We cannot continue teaching students at their frustion level and expect them to "all of a sudden" gain the skills. It a company ran their business this way, it would be bankrupt in one month!

It is a very high percentage of convicted criminals, sitting in jail right now, that were labeled "learning disabled" or "slow learner". (I believe the estimate is close to 80%). What opportunities does a student have when they turn 18 and they have no marketable skills or a general lack of knowledge of the game of life and how to play it? I firmly believe that once the educational system begins teaching students at their level, we will see many prisons close their doors 15 to 20 years later due to lack of need.

This is a "hot topic" for me. I saw way too many children get left by the wayside in our educational systems.

Now if only we had an enlightened leader in office that would see the absurdity of our current educational system and commission changes...hmmm

Thanks Burt!
Gotta go visualize!

David says 1 year, 5 months ago

Hi Burt:
I wondered what happened to you, as I have not heard about any new "classes" from you the last few years (I have been taking them for 15 years+ -- So. CA area) Now I know--your and our kids.
Something is needed in the school system. Two of my grand kids were taken out of public school grade 2/3 as they were not doing well, particularly in reading. They subsequently were home schooled instead(my daughter did not have any teaching experience).After a few years of home schooling they became proficient at reading and were put back into public school where were subsequently became Honor Roll students until graduating from high shcol.

My grand daughter also home schooled for similar reasons is back in public school and is a "National Honor Roll" student - 7th grader. She reads a few hundred books a year.

My interest in your "current passion",is what is needed to improve (not what's wrong with the school system)to help our kids; partcularly now as my youngest grandson has now also been taken out of public school (age 7)to be home schooled for same aforementined reason.

I will be encouraging my grandson to use his visual and intuitive abilities and suggesting to my daughter she get on your web site,
Take Care,
David

Theresa Kannenberg says 1 year, 5 months ago

Hello everyone, My name is Theresa Kannenberg, a German-Canadian living in Gifu, Japan. I have been teaching

English as a second language here for 18 years. Eventhough I had dreamt of being a mother for a very long time, I somehow knew in my soul that I had to do alot of learning and healing before I was going to be given the chance to raise a child. I truly believe that if I would have had a child earlier in life, I wouldn't have had the necessary tools for nurturing. It would have all been about ME and not about the child. I would've had my own baggage and anger from my past.

SELF-DEVELOPMENT

Over the course of 15 years while working and traveling, I took a variety of self-healing seminars and listened to self-help inspirational cds and dvds which helped me to grow as a person and to realize I do not have to keep re-living/repeating my past or carry the past around with me. Continued Self-development leads to a better life, and puts you in a better position to raise a child. Forgiveness seems to be one key to living free from carrying others around with you.

HAVE A PLAN

Having a financial plan before birth was the biggest life saviour ever. I recommend having a plan from the very beginning, a special account just for family planning started even before you meet the partner of your dreams. I did, and it has taken the pressure off the money situation.

Money can be the biggest pressure on families these days especially with rising gas prices, food prices, etc., and this pressure can lead to early divorce, if you are NOT living a Principled based life system, which adds fuel to the fire of the Genius Dip.

By the time I had Deston (French for Destiny), I was ready, willing and happy. I lived cheerfully from day one, listening to classical music and children songs while driving from lesson to lesson. Even to this day, I teach a variety of ages, so my own child in the womb was able to be there with me before and after birth.

Eventhough I am a working mother, I have chosen an occupation in which I have been able to bring my baby with me during work hours, not all but most. While I was teaching a lesson, my baby would sit quietly in his baby carry basket beside me. If he began to feel uncomfortable I would give him a cracker or bottle of warm milk which I always carried in my bag. He enjoyed being there and sharing my life all the way.

PLANNED PARENTHOOD and CARETAKER SITUATIONS

It was harder after having the second child but having a stay-at-home dad helped tremendously, we have been incredibly blessed to have had at least one parent at home on any given day (to tell the truth, I planned it that way.)

Many new parents do not have this luxury and have to leave their child with a caretaker or babysitter, for hours on end even; this cannot be good psychologically, or spiritually, and statitics have shown that children who spend hours and hours separated from their parents have significant lower IQ scores and attention disorders as well as disruptive behavior. This should tell us something. Children need More Parent Time - direct love, encouragement, and healthy input through active interaction during playtime and mealtime.

I have observed some caretaker situations as a teacher and have seen some scary tactics which can change a child forever. I have seen a cheerful child change over the course of a year because of being placed in the wrong hands. Glazed over eyes is a clear indicator, and incessant crying when being dropped off and the continuance of crying for hours after being left. Clinkiness is another indicator of an unhappy child.

If my child did this, I would....well you can of course fill in the blanks here. Definitely choose another center or do it myself. I never leave my children without knowing the entire situation. The environment must have caring, attentive and creative individuals who love being with children. This is so important for the overall well-being of the child.

DIFFERENCES IN CULTURE

One difference I have noticed between Canadian child-raising and Japanese child-raising is the sleeping situation. In all the writing here, I have not seen anything written about this subject.

In Japan, the mother or the father goes to bed with the child or children. From babyhood all the way up to about age 7 or 8. The child is given his first bed when turning 6 or 7. When I babysat for families in Canada, the children were put in their own beds and the light turned out after the story was read.

We who live in Japan, go to bed at the same time, read a story or two, sing songs until the child is totally asleep. Once this happens, the parent is free to continue sleeping or get up to get some work done.

If the children are put in their own beds, they are free to come sleep with the parents during any part of the night without rejection. The children are much more connected with parents emotionally and it gives them the needed physical contact as well as that needed feeling of being safe.

I NEVER tell them there are monsters under the bed, a terrible practice if you ask me. Using fear to keep a child in bed is the worse case scenario and should be avoided. A child who sleeps peacefully is a happy child when it comes to bed time.

ANOTHER CULTURE DIFFERENCE (maybe shocking to some)

The Japanese society is very private about showing affection in public, touching or holding hands are rarely seen as well as hugging and kissing are definitely taboo in public areas such as supermarkets and shopping malls. I of course show affection whether I am at home or in public.

We also take baths together in the evening - a well kept secret of the Japanese people. I believe having this custom has reduced the number of sexual preditors for reasons unknown to me - but I feel bathing together is an overall pleasant experience helping to develop a healthy, comfortable attitude towards nudity. The physical connection between mother/father and child fosters a loving trust and acceptance of one another which lasts a life time.

CHILDREN ARE PEOPLE TOO

During the day, I continue to ask my children what they want or need and constantly explain the differences between need and want. I always give them a choice and they feel involved when they make their choices - this is so very important as it gives them a feeling of being in control of the outcome. The parent isn't always being the controller.

I unwaveringly ask my children about their day at school and take time out of everyday to sit, play and laugh with each one - which includes drawing, painting, block building, reading, watching their favorite program, and of course having mealtime with them. They are humans in little form and I have great respect for the god who gave me a chance to learn from them.

ALL these things put together build a happy home for all concerned and help spur the development of a happy, healthy, well-rounded, soulful child. I am continuing to teach my children the abundance of the world....they can create anything their hearts' desire if they really want to.

Let's raise the level of childraising to a new level and not hand over this task to the less than perfect educational system.

HEARTFUL THANKS

Love and peace to all those reading these heartful stories shared the world over, and Thanks to Burt for letting us share our stories here. I am looking forward to reading more so I may continue to bring out the Genius in my own offspring seeds who float upon the rapids Away and in Hopes eyes Back to me again.

Pursue Life, Knowledge and Wisdom with Eager Feet, Always!

Sincerely,
Theresa
a.k.a. The TLCgirl

http://amazon.com/Symphony-Words-Images-Creative-Together/dp/0805974237

Kathleen Brewington says 1 year, 5 months ago

Hi Burt,
First i would like to say thank you for your words and thoughts, i enjoyed hearing what you had to share. I am a mother of two beautiful daughters now 8 yrs. and 17 yrs. of age, and also have two gorgeous sons ages 14 and 20. I have also been blessed with a grandson age 18 months,who just lights the world.

I think one of things i do as a parent and grandparent is allow my children to be outspoken and to express themselves freely. They feel safe speaking their minds and being creative in many ways. My 8yr old daughter Sarah loves to redesign her clothes and shoes, alot of parents i know would not allow this, my grandson Andrew loves play with my pots and pans, skateboards and has a great love to be outdoors immitating birds and other animals. I think parents can help foster that creative genius in a child by letting children express and discover things without reacting to it.So they make lots of messes in the process but enjoy with them how much fun they are having, try and see the world through their eyes, it is most fasinating when you let go of reacting and just watch them soar. Its okay to color out of the lines, its okay to experiment in the kitchen. My daughter Sarah loves cooking and often comes up with her own recipes and concoctions, and she loves every minute of it. She invents her own cookies, some of them have actually been very tastey.Some of their ideas may seem off the wall but thats what helps their imaginations grow and blossom. I think it would be absolutely wonderful if we could get into the public and private schools a curriculum like math and reading a system of education that taught throughly the power of thought and imagination, to help teach children to allow their minds to soar, and to do so freely. This should be taught like math and all the subjects and should be regarded as an important part of education, featuring the works of all the great minds but in a simple way a child can grasp its true understanding.We live in a totally creative world, a mental thought world, and this should be taught to children early on, so they can let their beautiful minds can create.
When i was a child growing up, my younger brother and I would go on adventures everyday. Each new day was a new adventure, some days we were great artisits, other days we were inventors, we did alot of interesting off the wall things some people would regard as just that. We once tried to make parachutes with my mother's sheets, jump ropes and back packs, one day we melted all of crayons down and made candles we sold at the park for a quarter a peice, another time we made kites out of my mothers old shower curtains. We just had a ball. My brother now is an animater and artist. Our childhood brought us the courage to dare to dream and to explore many things through our innovative ideas and imaginations. I say allow kids to be kids, so they make a mess, so what, let them make a mess, let them discover what they are capable of doing, dreaming and imagining!

shareece says 1 year, 5 months ago

Hi Burt and thanks for the great report. Maybe you will also want to consider this: http://www.babyplus.com/prenatallearning.php

kind Regards and further success in helping out kids

Krys says 1 year, 5 months ago

I have an 'unusual' memory in that I remember being born and my life up to now, age 46. Being told that you understand and remember everything works. Never forgetting being a baby means I can say for a fact that baby talk from adults was absurd unless during playful moments. Don't bother. It creates no desired effect other than making kids wonder what you are doing and leaves us wondering if we should join in, and not because we are disoriented or dumb, but, because we think we are supposed to act this way-is that what you want to teach? No motor control does not mean we are 'out of it' waiting to be imprinted into society. I understood pretty well everything but I just didn't have the body control to form words to speak back or lift my spoon and so on. Reading while pointing to the letters making the sound of the words being read is good and repetition is good. It was for me. Pointing out how things work together, serves a purpose by being orienting. Later in life, when working at a nursery school, some teachers took it for granted that children are to clean up at the end of play period and the tots did so. These pre-schoolers also knew which teachers did not expect clean up, and would not do so. With my nephew, all of us adults around him, explained why he was asked to do something, and we filled him in on news, and, found he wouldn't act up when we did so. We also, without the pressure of a 'have-to know' expectation, believed he understood what he was told and it appeared to be so. I think it's important to instill self concern, trust of our inner feelings, to know that reputation and consequences of actions can propel us or waste time. It's important to know it's exciting to pursue interests and to know we can participate and have an impact on society.

Alicia S. says 1 year, 5 months ago

I come from an extended family, my mother loved children and very often we had little children around since I was very young. I have always admire children for their sincerity and clarity of mind. Once in Italy I had six children , between four and five years old ,playing in my house; two italians that only spoke their own language, two americans that only knew English and two Spaniards speaking only Spanish. I sat down to listen how they talked in their own language and answered to each other correctly. I believe that when we grow up we loose that wonderful understanding of each other that children have, and as you say the Genius Dip is very prevalent.
Dear Mr.Goldman; I admire you and the work you are doing. Thank you very much.

Michele says 1 year, 5 months ago

I wholeheartedly agree with your report and while change on a grand scale is slow, we can make the most difference in the home.

As a child, my favorite book was The Little Engine That Could. This little book was read to me so many times that it's message has stayed with me ever since. I think I can, I think I can, I think I can.....perseverance/mind over matter.

If I can instill that type of thinking within my own children coupled with quality time and a loving environment, than I know my kids will do alright.

Also, I find it disturbing that kids as young as 3 and 4 are playing video games (with their own handheld even). We don't have those in our house. Rather, the backyard is their mode of play.

I'd like to also state that while my kids are not short in the toy department - they don't even play with them. If children are given fresh air, a bike, shovel and ball they will make their own fun and be tired out by bedtime. Mind you - they are still young.

John Barnes says 1 year, 6 months ago

I am now 65, have created numerous companies and thousands of jobs. I taught myself to read when I was around 5, and when I was 12 invented a system to teach my 4 year old sister to read in 2-3 weeks while I was incapaciatated with a broken arm. She was reading the Wizard of Oz within 3 months therafter. I held her as capable of that, and interacted with her accordingly. With my own children, I did "pretends" at bedtime, having them visualize accomplishments (reading, sports, whatever they wanted to accomplish with excellence) in their minds from within their bodies, using their visual, audial and kinesthetic senses in their mind to reinforce the sensations and implant the memories. We had them try lots of different things, always encouraging them, to see what interested them. We always had lots of books around about lots of things, both fiction and factual. We did not talk down to them, but talked to them at an essentially adult level even at a very young age. We encouraged them to make decsions, and discuss their reasoning from young ages, and to accept the responsibilities and consequences of those decisions. With my grandson who lives close to me, I began training his eye hand coordination at age 1 by rolling a ball toward him and having him throw it back to me, and shortly therafter, bouncing a ball on the edge of the playpen into his chest so that he could catch it in his hands. He soon got to where he could reach out past the edge of the playpen and catch it before it bounced on the edge of the playpen. He could hit a ball thrown in the air by the time he was age 2, by progressing through incremental steps. At age 5 he was introduced to the pretends at bedtime, and uses visualizations on his own as well. He and his 3 year old sister are being trained to speak both English and Spanish. They are both given ample opportunity to practice various forms of art as well, painting and drawing etc. My grandson and I play video games such as Lego Star Wars that involve lots of solving puzzles to accomplish the games goals. As a result he has highly developed problem solving skills for his age. One of the biggest prblems that I see is that we accept way too much limitation on the ability at young ages. It is important to not press challenges on one that they cannot handle, but accelarate the challenges at as rapid a rate as they can. Genius gets bored real fast, but thrives on interesting challenges, and espcially on paced increases that keep it challenged.

ANUP ROY says 1 year, 6 months ago

I try and but positve around because I seem to affect my son.

Well I have to eat by please do more of this! PLEASE! I really like it.

as a friend

Toni Luoma says 1 year, 6 months ago

I have been using law of attraction and manifesting from 9 year old. I AM now 14 yers old and I AM trying to preserve and increase whatever capabilities I may have and get. THis is a journey to the unknow. I know you're all cheering me on and I applaud and thank you for it. I AM doing this for the collective good and I count on your support. Thank you once again.

Susan Montierth says 1 year, 6 months ago

Hi friends,
I think I was an indigo child. I feel things on a very spiritual level. I have 5 children. My youngest has Down Syndrome. God showed me a great spirit in my dreams before I gave birth to him. It was my son Michael. When he was born he sparkled like golden light. He was given to our family to teach us and give us an extra measure of love and and an extra measure of patience. Some day he will be restored to perfect form. His spirit is great and so many children today have great spirits, greater than what we can sometimes comprehend. Let us love and endear these special children. Life is eternal...we may not know but there are angels among us in a form we may not recognize.
My message is to embrace your little ones for who they are. Accept them. Love them.
Susan

stacy navarro says 1 year, 6 months ago

Burt, I think this is a great topic, the most important
topic! My son is enrolled in a waldorf charter school
so he can be in a nurturing environment that recognizes
how important art and music are for the human being.
My ideal school for children would be one that incorporates
the freedom of sudbury and its democratic approach, with
the beauty and spirituality of waldorf, a splash of montessori for more kinesthetics. I previously homeschooled
my son, but due to wanting a more spiritual partner, I have chosen to part with my husband and homeschooling is
not very practical right now. My son is a genius and I do
wonder about the school environment holding him back. I know it does not allow for him to have his individual consciousness, but it is the most nurturing
environment I can provide for him at this time. The Nurturing Project is a great site for info for the younger children or you can find out more by looking
up Lifeways. I have taught my son that he is the creator
of his life and can manifest what he focuses on, even at
eight. I feel good knowing that he and my younger three year old son can go through life feeling powerful and skip the victim mentality.
Thanks for all the great info!
Stacy

Sinead says 1 year, 6 months ago

Hi again

You get so many comments! Seriously this is whoa, wow.

I think... When I was younger I still remember now my parents supporting but... It's grown a lot...

I seem to affect my parents ever since I started becoming obessed with self improvement they became obessed with self improvement or at least... I started to affect my mom. She had always been a bit grounded but...

I think that you can learn a lot from your children if you let yourself. Of course I can learn a lot from my mom but that doesn't mean she can't learn from me. I don't like when people say or parents in genral 'I know what's best for you.'

When someone proclaims they know what's best for me it makes or gives me the idea that they are say 'I am the only one who knows best for you.' I think that parents should be more open-minded and letting their child be more, do more.

My father always had intense over-protective issues and I always felt restrained. When he loosened his grip on me a little more I felt more free, less domisticated.

I think people can still guide their child but still WITHOUT an addictive need to over control their child. I think parents are only there to be role-models and nothing more. I don't think they should control who I should be with.

My parents give me a lot more freedom than other children and I feel a bit more like wild-child, freer and happier. I am not saying you should let your child steal stuff, but mostly if it's legal I think parents should lay their children.

For example if someone wants to focus most of their time on developing a skill and not going to school or do 'conventional' work, I think you should or parents should support them. Support their dreams.

I didn't want to continue this program I was going to... I want to focus most of my time on self-improvement right now. I am considering to become an athlete. I want to spead most of my time reading self-improvement books and excersing.

I remember fidgting in the car over the idea of going to this program I was bored with everyday. I didn't go anymore... I didn't want to disappoint my parents though. This was about a week ago... And my mom and I had the most uplifting conversation over the phone I LOVED it.

I asked dad to stop the car and I called my mom.

Eariler she had not been accepting me not continuing this program because she thought she knew what was best me. Of course I am the only one who knows that... and I was doubting if I should not continue the program and follow what I wanted. I self-doubted because my mother... but then...!

We had our conversation and it was one of the best conversations I had with my mother. I am not sure if she nesserally agreed with my descion but she said she 'would support me whole-heartenedly, whether I screw up or not or whatever descion I made!' I was so thrilled it encouraged me to make the descion I WANTED.

It was uplifting. My father was the one who began to encourage me along the words but I needed both of their support so I called mom. I have the most WONDERFUL parents a young 'teenager' can have. They don't hate me if I don't make descions they don't like, and they scold me MOST of the time.

I am struggling with something else though... I want to stop... I don't know if I want to work right now because it is my dream to be gymnist... My parents want me to continue going... well it's more like a goverment plan here Canada...

It helps me a job but I don't want one right now. I am worried if I don't a job I'll starve or something... well not really I guess I am worried that my parents will be pissed.

Even though my was supportive of me when the program I ditched called her she got a little freaked out. Just self-consious or something. I don't want her to get like that again.

I have been reading books that says I don't need to 'worry' about stuff. I know I won't always have my parents to watch my back but... I want to train so I can be athlete! I want... I don't know how to tell my parents. I don't know what to do... I suppose I do know but... I don't know.

I know some tips. I think the MOST IMPORTANT thing to do for your child is be completely supportive of he or she no matter how stupid you think their idea is. AND DO NOT tell them what you think of your idea if you think its stupid. That is the most stupid thing you can do because the child who relies on you for support, as idol, someone to model on, who relies on your believes...

Like me they become depressed and crushed. That's what I want my parents to do NO MATTER what. I think I can still be supportive them. I try to be.

I have this cousin who is very dear to me. She is three or four years old, and she is kind of spoiled with so much love from so MANY of my relitives. I think that's cool and awesome, I used to feel slightly jealous.

I think if you have two children, my mother doesn't play favorites she loves us both so DEARLY it's like we're her everything. Once she said she loved us more than herself and my dad.

If you love or express, or spoil another child or sibling more than another they will feel neglected or hate you. I felt resentment when my 'Nana' never paid attention to me and only to my 'favorite' other cousin Sammatha.

Anyway, I love Hannah, the three old whole-heartedly... So I don't resent her... Anyway I want to help her attain or delevop her genious.

What I try do is when I visit her and her family I like to be positive and not cute with her. I try to treat her as a equal but not harshly. I apprieted when someone treated me equally when I was her age.

I try and but positve around because I seem to affect her.

Well I have to eat by please do more of this! PLEASE! I really like it.

Your friend,

Sinead

P.S-

Do more reports and things this please.

Don't just help the toddlers though, there are people a bit younger than me who are into this stuff.

More than before a lot of people near my age or yonger are into things like 'the Secret'. The talk of that around my friends was spreading like wildfire! SO AWESOME!

Anyway just saying. Should be children of all ages. I think that's what you mean when you say child right?

If this is a little long deal with it, you did want my thoughts.

Atilde says 1 year, 6 months ago

Dear Burt

The answer to your blog, very well serves this purpose too.

I very much sympathise with most parents and specially teacher Jorge who wrote in your blog. Indeed it is so sad what the government is doing to its children. Children should be respected as the future governance. This governance is not there forever, for sure. So they want to live a heritage of dead and dull sleeping population living a life on the oblivion? How sad! The power in a country, society or planet depends on their people and their four spouses (body, mind, resources and soul). It seems that putting all this children asleep we will have no future, we will have a country of sick or ill (bodies), mindless with no capacity to generate resources and soulless people without intuition at all. Is it what we want for our future and the future of our loved ones? Certainly not! Who votes for government? We do. So we still have the power to change things, let’s do it now, before it is to late.

And God bless you Burt and other people like you who are fighting for the right to give a true inheritance for our children, -their own true and genuine geniuses!- I recommend our governance to read more of Confucius and Marcus Aurelius model of governance and really embrace love and cooperation, after all, they also are people and have children. God bless them and their children too. For we forgive them and their lack of intuition, they too, may be, also have been victims of the system.

And I recommend parents to learn the truth about parenting, for education indubitably starts at home. A good level of self esteem in our children will help them immensely in their educational endeavours. Children are acquiring low and middle self esteem from us parents and to change that, we have to rise our levels of self esteem now, our self esteem have been damaged by our past system, so please pass it not to our children, that is why it is paramount to learn it at once. Otherwise we will force Burt to be on Earth for thousands of generations. At the moment he already has to restore the self esteem and geniuses of circa 6.000.000.000 (six billion) people. It is the parents responsibility to cure the future cause, so please do read self help books and books on how to improve your children self esteem and maintain their geniuses through life, learn with Burt, or consult a good family therapist. I also find Tony Humphreys’ books very updated and easy to follow. I recommend a positive thinking course for every person whatever their age and purpose. It helped me and made a difference in my life and the lives of my loved ones to attend a Silva’s Seminar and Burt’s Central Stage Technique.

Thank you Burt for bringing such an important matter to the lives of so many people. This is like an awakening blog and I feel it is my duty to contribute too. Thank you very much indeed. God bless you and your family.

margarita says 1 year, 6 months ago

Burt, you are so spot on. I just love what you do and I agree 110% I am trying do do something to encourage children to find new resources withing themselves. It is only in infancy. I am so heartened by the response to you and am slowly reading through them. The imagination is such a powerful resource and it is being neglected. Have you ever seen Project Sanctuary by Silvia Hartmann. She thinks like you but in a different way. Have a look at her site. Just google Emotrance. Long may you be with us to give such wise and kind direction to our lives.

God Bless you

Margarita

Dorothy says 1 year, 6 months ago

As parents in today's society we would do a lot better by educating children at home. This also advantages the children as their parents can supervise the friends they play with. If parents can do without a television in the house all the better as children will go into themselves and become more creative in their thinking and playing. I didnt have a TV in the house for the initial learning years. I found it easier to bring them up without all the unnecessary interference. The children were creating their own thoughts on whats good and whats not. Its too much information for under age children and for parents to keep up with the childs thought processes. Take the children to the library once a week. Read to them often during the day and just before bedtime. Let them watch the videos of the chosen book you would like them to see. There is more choice at the library than on TV. Schooling children at home allows the freedom for innocence to grow. Tightly structured classes which are necessary where children in a large number are educated together can prevent them from developing as they should, its all too rigid. Parents must choose quality not quantity in their child's education and only smaller personal and home classes will provide this. Schooling at home protects from other children who might want to bully. This is a disaster. Taking the slightest chance for a child to be bullied can destroy them for many years. Teaching spiritual, moral and ethical values is done best in a protected home environment until they are mentally and emotionally mature enought to make their own minds up about who they should follow and what they should think. Families who choose to educate their children at home are more likely to produce a more mentally balanced and wholesome child who is more likely to go further with their secondary and tertiary education. This then could start the argument about both parents needing to work and thus the child/ren are given very very little time each day on the really necessary aspects of life ie learning with mum, dad and siblings. I am making this comment with regard to children of kindergarten and infant school age. I had my children at home rather than put them into a pre-school and gave them semi-structured free time in painting, drawing, playing inside games, playing outside with prams, dolls, bikes, child-size footpath cars. I advertised my child-sitting skills in the local shop strictly for the benefit of my children having others to play with and that I could oversee their play with outsiders, and I got a good response. Some parents came for part of the morning and left later coming back after they had done their shopping. Their children also benefited. I think its most important that children are given a protected, healthy and happy kindergarten schooling with a mixture of other children but its much more beneficial if you are on the "cause" side and not on the "effect". Every parent can be on the "cause" side of their genius child if they so wish. Giving children the best environment for as long as possible is the home environment for upbringing and parent-sponsored education. Its the childs foundation for learning which is also very very important. This all comes with a price. The price of maybe not owning your own home for a while. Not working until the children are at least 8-10 years old. Purchasing second-hand clothes, furniture, etc. My grandmother didnt work and she produced 6 children of her own and she adopted 2. They were all taught at home initially. The first child (my mother) was a child prodegy and did all her schooling at the Convervatorium of Music and later became a music teacher. The eldest son put himself through university (BA Degree) by doing home deliveries from the local general store during the day and built up one of Australia's biggest transport companies. The second eldest son became the CEO or Chairman for the ANZ Bank, Australia. In those days the bank paid for the house they lived in and on his retirment the bank gave him the house. The youngest son of my grandmother started up a shoe chain-store including quality ladies handbags and accessories and finished up with many stores. If parents want a child-genius they must put in the hours.

Sarah says 1 year, 6 months ago

My son is extremely sensitive and has a always had dreams determining future events that have occured.I used to ignore his dreams until he they could no longer be ignored. I beleive he got this from me as I do believe but have no "powers" of any kind except "sensitivity" and my parents think that it is all rubbish. My son has introduced me to the powers of crystals and I used to think it was weird but now I have made it all a part of our everyday life. He is great at Maths but extremely poor at English and slipping through the school's cracks. I am teaching him meditation to open his mind and to think positive (as his lack of schooling knowledge upsets him and he quits too easy now). My son and I do a lot of things that the average household wouldn't even think of doing but I do believe that we are evolving as human beings into the higher realm of spirituality. I want my son to keep going with this when he leaves the nest and to teach his children, and so forth. His strengths may no lie in "school education" but his "soul education" is far greater than most children I meet and it is noticeable. Encourage your children's special little gifts more and more each day. I beleive that one day the world may have to rely on someone that has "a gift" and not necessarily a "big brain". All skills - mental, spiritual, psychic, academic are as important as each other for the human race as a combined "whole".

Cathy says 1 year, 6 months ago

Hello Burt,

thank's for opening this venue,I as a parent believe we have to invest in our children.We need to send them to church & teach them how to pray.As a child growing up my mother taught me spirtitual values this was first.
also we need to encourage our children to read spiritual books & watch TV shows RE: Touched By An Angel,etc, any acts of kindness this will help our children grow & develop.
Most important we must be there for them to listen & encourage.The power of positive thought is of great value,love, respect for all humans.

Than you
Cathy

Judi says 1 year, 6 months ago

I was wondering if Silva has done any study on working with ADHD kids. I am a therapist and have observed that some of these children may be in the alpha level to some degree, instead of the beta.

Phung Phan says 1 year, 6 months ago

I am not a parent nor do I plan to have one of my own. However, I plan to raise children that do not have parents or have parents that are not so ideal. Despite lacking much parenting experiences, I believe that I am an extraordinary being because I come from an impoverish history and being the first generation in my family to graduate college and heading off to medical school. I know that I could not have made it if I did not get the right influences from the right people. I have that most loving, and understanding parents who are very able to change in the midst of need. They taught me how to be thankful for my situations and how to change to become better. A little pride is good they tell me but don't be arrogant.
Buddhism helped me to be who I am today as well. It has taught me to learn with my heart and follow my own path toward spiritual enlightenment. I have even gone so far as to reject certain Buddhist practices as essential such as mantra chanting and belief in reincarnation.
And of course, thanks to my "Life after death" professor Dr. Fasching, I was introduced to Jose Silvia's system which eventually lead Burt Goldman! At this point of my life I learned how to convert my most horrible habits and turn them into tools that help me attract the events and people I truly need and desire.
To recap on what I think a child need to avoid the Genius Dip is:
-Show unconditional love by acknowledging your child and their work
-Don't lecture your child about your life and your mistakes but give them all possible outcomes that could happen depending on their choices (Kids usually have a good sense of what's right and wrong but they do not have a well developed frontal lobe to handle long term goals and planning)
-Teach them all the religions and let them decide on what they want to follow. Make sure you teach them tolerance and that there is no such thing as right and wrong when it comes to other people's beliefs (science can be a religion too!)
-Teach your children the mechanics of thinking positive and make it a habit for them. If you don't know how, get Burt's system or use the Silva Ultramind system or read "the Secret".
-Teach compassion to all sentient beings because children can be cruel to each other which may cause unfortunate events like Columbine or WWII.
-Listen to John Lennon's song "imagine"
-Read "the Art of Happiness"
-Be open to your child's aim in life. Careers can be unconventional such as comic book drawing, teaching dance, art, cooking, designing underwear, professional gamer, etc. Anything is fair game in this world, people can make a living doing practically anything today. So, let your child do whatever that they are naturally capable of because I believe that no one job is more important than the other. EVERY job is essential to the functioning our world.
Again, thanks to everyone that influenced me the correct way. I am truly grateful and will pay back to society my debt to my fullest extent.

Joseph William Stasaitis says 1 year, 6 months ago

Hi Burt,

Well said. Focusing on positive solutions is the way to go. Over the years working with kids with different challenges, I have found that planting positive seeds on a consistent basis without attachment to results works best.

Just yesterday I ran into a person I had worked with five (5) years ago, who is now doing well working in the community. Have worked with SED, developmentally disabled, gang-related, autistic as well as mainstream kids over the years, it's great to see when a child is able to integrate some of the ideas presented and make some positive changes.

Here's a free email series for dealing with challenging kids that may be helpful. Before a child can access their creativity and genius capacity, they often need to work through the resistance they have built up by being exposed to the all too prevalent "models of insanity" out there.

http://www.overcomingdefiance.com/

Being the person with the specific traits that you would like to see in your child speaks a lot louder than words. Kids pick up quickly if an adult "gets it" or not.

All the best.

Joseph

raselmahmud says 1 year, 6 months ago

it is a revolutionary idea. i am always eager to get new idea.

Teresa says 1 year, 6 months ago

I have always taught my children to believe in themselves. Ask them what they would like to be and encourage that - no matter how big or odd it seems. This gives them a great sense of empowerment. Stop telling them. Ask - learn to question - openly - without critisism. As adults we need to realise we dont have the answers. Only they know whats best for them - odd and all as that may seem. This does not mean we do not guide them on the basics truths. Stop trying to control them - it only drives them away. Remember our children are only on loan to us - we do not own them. They are on their own journey. Accept they will make what looks like poor decisions. Help them to learn from them. Stop being critical and judgmental.
As adults we need to deal with our own issues - for me this is by far the most important thing. We all have unresolved issues which we project onto our children - our stuff - not theirs. We work hard trying to convince them that our way is best. Its simply not. A lot of the time its our unfulfilled ambitions, dreams that we want our children to achieve in order to make us feel good about ourselves. Get out their and sort out your own stuff and leave your children alone - on their own path with their own dreams. Ireland

Ripeka says 1 year, 6 months ago

I have lovely kids, young teenager boys who stand close to us or when no one is looking, come for a hug. They have their moments, push the boundaries, and at times jump clear over the fence but comments I receive from adults (including the shop keeper who I don't know) is, they are respectful, polite and kind. Important life lessons for them:

1) We all make mistakes, it is part of life.
2) When you do make a mistake, own up, face up, and put
it right - (so come along we are visiting that home
and you are going to scrub that fence)
3) If you make a mistake there is a consequence.
3) No matter what you do, we love you, come home.
4) This year you will be the best at one thing. What do
you choose.
5) If you die, sit down and wait, your grandfather (or
your angel) will come. If I die first I will come
collect you. (Love transcends everything, surprised
if I couldn't make it).
6) A family tradition of saturday night dinner, normally
3 to 5pm (to fit the social life of the kids). They
can invite their friends, we invite extended family
and our family. There is lots of laughter, food,
conversation and warmth.
7) Another family tradition....I love you....normally
followed by...love you too...(but don't say it in
front of the boys, ok)

Thank you for the invitation...

Orlando says 1 year, 6 months ago

Growing up in Hawaii as a young Hawaiian male, there are a couple of things in mind that has help shape my thoughts and actions today. Both my parents are very loveing and careing parents. They have always been there for me when times were tough. They would never leave me no matter the situation. They would always listen and then speak. They would make me laugh. I always felt safe and secure around them. Their love and affection has never stopped, even till this very day. It is a great feeling to be loved unconditionally.

lise Teien says 1 year, 6 months ago

As a small child from the age of 4 I sat at the beach in the sand. I had a flat stone across my legs and a birdfeather in my hand. I had also found a stone with a little dip in it, and I had filled it with saltwater from the sea. I painted my dreams on the stone, I painted hope on the stone. I wrote small letters to whoever would read it.
I had a great time .
I my mind, now at the age of 53 I can still see a clear picture of myself, feel what I felt at that time. The joy of creating something.
What did I do, I left imprints on the stone. So one day when another person picked up my historystone the picture would come alive again, the letter would be read.
Did I know then what I did, no not at all. But still I think that someplace inside me I knew what I was doing.
Today I still paint. I teach vedic art. I use the 17 prinsiple to create a picture with a message to whom it might concern.
I think its important to keep alive the simple things we can do with children at all age and adults who still have their child alive within and to awake that child.

Georgia Daugherty says 1 year, 6 months ago

I have read all the comments and have very little to
add. However, I feel that a child that is raised in
a positive and nurturing environment will succeed in
whatever he/she chooses as a goal. Parents today are
very busy trying to make a living, but they should set
aside 10 or more mins. to listen and communicate with
their children being together as a group and also one
to one. Make each child special. To me praying as a
family is very special. Also teach each child how to
meditate and use visualization. Georgia

drs. John-Dirk Hellingman says 1 year, 6 months ago

Dear Sir,
First thank you for the great lessons and inspiration So Far.
Children, how to avoid children to fall into an unnatural attitude and sensibility?
Why do we ask that question. Have we forgotten our own childhood so quickly.
Is it because we always want to be in control, special with our children by which we loose that sensitive contact with our own childhood.

And what to do when the child doesn't do what we want.
We correct, educate and schape its outlook, emotions and thoughts so that it meets our terms and wishes.
Well educated!!

Instead of listening what the child really needs, communicates and wanting to share its feelings and emotions with us.
Then we make contact and in that very contact, from there rises relationship and can trust, honesty and challenge grow.

Children need an environment that is safe.
Safe emotional, Safe physical, Safe mental and Safe spiritual. The child needs that. It is and should not be a privilege.

How can a child meet society
By society meeting the children
Maths, Languages, Arithmac, Logical thinking
Dancing lessons from 8-10 up till 14-16 years of age to be integrate with that period that is called puberty, dealing with why I feel like this and what to do If I donot want this or that and how to share all that with others and yet to be true to myself.
Lessens in behaviour and etiquettes
Next to sports, yoga, body language and lessons in standing, walking, moving, theater and drama
Meetings with nature and understanding what it is to be in a natural surrounding.
All this asks for other curricula, schoolplans and teachers that have a deep understanding of their major
and extreem important jobs cultivating a different society than they have come from.

How to start?

Start looking your child in the eyes for a moment and end that look with a smile. You start making a difference

arulampalam says 1 year, 6 months ago

it is very important to help the children as they are the future generation. After I red all these ideas and comments,I don't know what else to say. you are doing an excellent job. Thank you verymuch.

Donna Wheatcroft says 1 year, 6 months ago

Children just want to be listened to, and most importantly, to feel that they have been heard. They need to be encouraged to become who they are meant to be. They not only want, but they need boundaries. They need to hear what we want them to do instead of what we don't want. They need examples more than they need critics. To this end I have taken up the teaching of The Virtues Project to teachers and parents. Virtues are the basic elements of our character and valued by all cultures. Within the 5 domains of human potential the Virtues Project helps us directly in our social, emotionnal and spiritual endeavours, and enhances our physical well-being and intellect. We fluorish in an atmosphere that is safe and caring where creativty can thrive.

Brenda Mac says 1 year, 6 months ago

I truly believe that our own self-esteem, how we view ourselves and others is something that is missing in family, school life and our communities.

I have been using a Character Education program with my daughter Sarah and it is empowering her to recognize the "good" inside herself and the "good" inside others. This program is called The Virtues Project. Every sacred text, every religion and culture was studied around the world and the common thread running through all were the virtues. Common ground for all humanity, the virtues are what define us as being a "good person" no matter where you live in the world, no matter what religion you practice or if you practice no religion.

A Canadian based grassroots program with five simple strategies now in over 90 countries in the world in families, schools, communities, governments, prisons, hospitals, universities, etc.

Just as every child is born a genius they are also born with virtues inside of them. Every child has the potential to be assertive, caring, responsible, courageous, purposeful, reliable, respectful, etc but it usually takes a parent, teachers and others to see these virtues inside of them before the children believe that they have these virtues in them and take ownership of them.

By recognizing and telling our children when they are being responsible, or using their self-discipline or being tactful we can empower them to believe in themselves. They need to understand that they "can" do anything they wish, "be" anything they wish, we all have the power within.

By realizing "teachable moments" are just that, teachable moments. It is normal to make mistakes. It is important to recognize that when we make mistakes it is a golden opportunity to learn and keep it a positive experience.

By realizing the importance and benefits of having "clear boundaries or rules" set by our parents and schools to keep our children safe and also setting the stage for learning.

By "honoring the spirit" enjoying special moments with our families, with the arts, dance, movie night, whatever you deem as "special" and just recognizing the importance of doing things together.

By learning the "art of companioning" our children and families to allow us to empty our cup when we feel the need without judgement or persecution or rescuing, so simple, so effective.

This program has the tools http://www.virtuesproject.com

Burt you have so much compassion and understanding that we need to change the world so we can live better lives. Your purposefulness and determination are astounding and I am grateful for all your tireless efforts.

All the best,
Brenda

Ed says 1 year, 6 months ago

I have read all these responces with a huge smile on my face.

Congradulations to so many of you that have such huge success , and congradulations to those of you who have been or are struggling with major issues and refuse to give up.

I guess I have been fortunate in my life; I was born to older parents, both in their 40's at the time, Mom a grade school teacher, and Dad although he only finished 8th grade, one of the wisest people I will ever know.

They always looked for any talents that I exhibited and made sure I was able to persue them as far as I wanted.

When Sandy and I had children we did our best to do the same.
When they would ask questions we would do our best to answer them, and if we couldn't, we made sure that we took the time to show the kids where and how to find the information and hopefully answers to those questions.I always tryed to impress on them that there was no such thing as a stupid question, and in many instances there was more then one right answer.

I have to say we have witnessed one of our children turn adversity into triumph several times, and in retrospect have asked him if he had not gone thru the hard times, if he would be as effective as he is, The answer has been both times, no.If approached in the correct state of mind, adversity builds character.

We now have 2 adult children and a 2 yr old grandchild. I always wondered why my Mother told me she would attempt to teach me till the day she died. I now know the answer.

Sandy and I are still involved it all 3 of their lives, and we are still advising as best we can for a given any given situation if asked and again if we don't have an answer, at times we still research the answers both together or separately comparing the info we get.

If your child exhibits a talent or passion for something, as long as its legal support it. Look for ways to accentuate it; make suggestions, don't force your beliefs or opinions.

I would say best gift I acquired in my life was an overwhelming sense of curiosity. Asking the hard questions has gotten me a lot of flack, but only served to doubled my resolve to find answers.Some questions are ongoing after 40 yrs but I still consider potentials, and as I said before, that somethings have more then one right answer.

Reality follows attention, like attracts like, but without the ability to maintain focus, the universe returns the very same randomness that the mind produces flitting from one thing to another. Cultivate as best you can focus and the ability to concentrate in your children. Meditation is a good place to start as it is the practice of maintaining the focus of attention.

Blessings,

Ed

Lorraine says 1 year, 6 months ago

Thank God for Burt!
Yes there are plenty of us out here who were searching for something I found what I was searching for (I'm 67 now)when I was 50 I found healing and have practised it since then I nurtured my children in the way of healing and they in turn are nurturing their children in the same way along with the other "encouraging stuff" along the way. I read what ever I could lay may hands on to enlighten and awaken my soul to the higher planes. What an amazing journey life is when you Let go Let GOD. Thanks.

Kenneth says 1 year, 6 months ago

Dear mr Goldman, All humans ever born are "open".
During the beginning of life, already as fetus, the are preconditioned by the environment in which they live.
In this way all is clipped away as a little bush in the garden and growing to become a beautifull hedge siutable to the expectations of the surrounding world. Although one forgets that the roots of this life are far more invisibly spread under the surface causing many dificulties in the visible part.
Kenneth.

Johnny says 1 year, 6 months ago

Maybe we can do it with hypno . It is a good way to bring the children to the level that brings them in contact with the innerself. There is the Ultra height that brings them there easely.
Greetings Johnny

Pat Tinoco says 1 year, 6 months ago

Hi Burt, Well, first of all I think opening up new thoughts on a past forming of systems has finally arrived. We live in a world that absolutely rejects change. Patriarch and Matriarchy were about unquestionable obedience and the no talk rule. Now, to get our children's minds out of frozen state is a big step towards freeing them. How? To undo split-mind development is teaching them WHOLENESS. The ideas and concepts taught to them at a vulnerable stage in development sets them up for empowerment or being overwhelmed. They are trapped into believing they are defective and flawed because they don't seem to measure up. FALSITY of course. Opportunity to address perceptions and beliefs developed early in life. BALANCE requires connecting both sides of the school system knowing a's or d's are a mis-perception about self. To believe a's know everything, always right and d's are dumb knowing nothing and never right is a set-up in perception. A's in balance are wrong and make mistakes and d's in balance are right and have times they don't make mistakes. Approval of self, to trust oneself and love oneself knowing I can and will make mistakes but they don 't define me. I ask for help knowing everyone can and will make mistakes and I am loved and accepted because I was born not because I am a human doing (memorizing machine) but a feeling human being having a living life experience. The military ideas brought into home and school has stunted human emotion development. False beliefs of who we are creates projection and a world of self destruction. FEAR changed to LOVE which the systems only base on appearance rather than on content and substance can enter the arena of the us and them mentality and end divisiveness. Mistakes are teaching tools not PUNISHMENT tools. We can become inspiring to each other when we free ourselves and see TRUTH in our reality. Hope this is some help. Thanks, Pat

Carol Ann says 1 year, 6 months ago

Where can I read the parents comments and replies?

My daughter is 28 and my son is 18.

As a single parent I have always made it a point to never have to say no for a, interest, belief, aspiration, or creative group they enjoyed.

I am blessed by them.

lilfarie76 says 1 year, 6 months ago

All I can say at this point is thank you for letting me know that we are not the only parents out there that know there is nothing wrong with our child just because he does not fit into the "normal solider" student role. I have been trying to get the school to understand that he is not ADHD which he was tested for and came back negative, but the teacher refuses to believe it because he is unlike the rest of the students. I am always searching for things that I can do to help him make school a bit easier and fail over and over again. So I am in need of help to make his life better. His self esteem at 5 years old is already declining and it hurts terribly to sit back and watch this happen to my son. He was so excited to go to school, but now there are days that we have to fight with him to get him to school.

There are a few things that we encourage at home. He loves to take all his toy animals and blocks and other toys and makes zoos. He will spend hours ( if you let him) taking all their toys and building wonderful things. I encourage him and praise him for his creativity . He is so smart and is constantly asking questions and I praise him for that as well. He have noticed the more we get our boys into the country and into nature the more creative and happy and well behaved they are. We dream of the day that we can move out of the crowed growing problem neighborhood that we live in to the country where they will be free to play with out the surrounding bad influences that we have to shelter them from now.

Thank you again for such a wonderful place to go to and learn from!

Blessings of Love, Happiness, and Patience
Lilfarie

Hayley says 1 year, 6 months ago

As a child I was always questioning everything in my life. I was free spirit loving nature and the world with great happiness. I grew up through a restricted linear education, which as Burt outlined in his video decreased my self-value, as the way I preferred to learn things was not being adhered too. Nevertheless I persevered through the education system believing on day I would be able to continue onto a secure job. I have observed throughout my senior years the unmotivated highly talented individual’s dropping out of subjects, which required more thought and time. The education we were receiving was under stimulating and degrading to us as young adults. Quite simply we had no immediate application of calculus for which we could understand and develop our understanding. We were never given the opportunity let alone it was never suggested. More importantly once we heard that computers were able to do thousands of calculations per second we were distraught at the outcomes for which our society was being formed into. Although the knowledge attained is highly valuable for those individuals wishing to pursue a career in engineering or mathematics, the way that it is taught is under stimulating and stagnant. It is not only mathematics that has lagged behind but almost all other subjects which demand a single method of answering the ‘correct question’.

The true irony presents itself. For the infinite possibilities of thought provide an infinite amount of possibilities and solutions to questions. But it is the students whom are only exposed to one apparent thinking process and idea, which is finite and ‘correct’. By limiting students potential to think out side the box, the education system is moulding the student’s thoughts, ideas and understanding of the world. They are forcing these ideologies into the conscious mind as the be all and end all and heavily scrutinise those students whom present another creative solution to the problem. This injustice is prevalent across many subjects and as a result many students aren’t able to progress into higher levels of understanding and thinking processes. Quite simply young adults are restricted and it is not only in school but also in their private lives. These restrictions are horrendous as they cause rebellion or ‘fazing out’ as no adult or often any teacher is able to listen to the cries of help. I’m not saying adults do not wish to listen but the truth is often that during this point in an adolescents life, that the parent- child relationship isn’t as strong.

That is why the marks across many subjects are averaging to about 30-40% across the state. Earlier throughout primary and early in secondary education results in the 80-90 were attainable to the few 10% but as the years progressed the 10% dropped to 2% and lately this 2% has been questionable at my current high school. Don’t get me wrong we are not a ‘dumb’ generation, in fact we have an immeasurable amount of potential as all human being do. But it is the education system that is discouraging our ego from being wrong and instilling a sense of fear. This in affect is labelling us weak, failures, hence lowering our sense of self-esteem and eradicating our understanding and belief in ourselves. For how can a person grow in all the facets of mind if he has no belief?

One more thing, I remember Burt mentioning this key ingredient for which our belief and understanding in our self can be transfigured “creativity”. Creativity to all the facets of life is the KEY. As an art student myself I would not be able to understand the world without creativity. It is quite precisely our internal being or ‘soul’ freely expressing its deep inner knowledge and understanding without the scrutiny of being wrong. For art is anything. It is existence. It is never wrong. And is currently gaining higher accord in the world, as it freely accepting all forms, ideas and bridging connections across all nations. Perhaps the solution to many of our problems is throughout art. Freud believed that the subconscious mind communicated to our conscious selves through dreams. It is not only dreams but also automated writing and pure creativity in whichever form which invariably increases our understanding and growth in our selves as a whole being. It is this understanding of ourselves in which we strive for as human beings. Young children must be given the chance to develop this understanding and positive self-belief for the younger they are the more prone and subject they are too hazardous influences of life. I survived the regime but I am disgusted at the corruption of my fellow pears. Let’s stop this corruption and act NOW. With this newly acquired knowledge, it is time to instil this positive propaganda and change the structure of society for good.

Annie D says 1 year, 6 months ago

In my fiftieth year I look back and am grateful for my parent's love. I always knew I was loved. That seems pretty simple but it's essensial for wellbeing. As more and more children are born more 'aware' we cannot pretend anything. We can't hide anything from them. We must be genuine even if we make mistakes.

My dad ALWAYS (my entire life) told me I could do anything! The legacy he gave me was wonderful - there are no limits! Today I am a 'healer' and I don't restrict what I can do by a limiting mindset - thanks to my dad.

As parents we need to learn to be 'observers' rather than 'reactors'. I learned this with my adult disabled daughter. It gives everyone some space to become calm again if possible. When they yell at us and we yell back, this only exacebates the problem. (I was doing that for many, many years until I caught on.) We cannot become observers if we're under the influence of drugs or alcohol. To help our children we must FIRST help ourselves to become more spiritual, more tolerant, more loving, compassionate and understanding. It's not about 'fixing' them it's always about 'fixing' ourselves first. We can't make anyone do anything. We can only work on ourselves. We can certainly help them once we have more balance in our own lives.

As for schooling: I think Pink Floyd showed us what was wrong so well in "The Wall". Schooling needs to be 'fun'. I've known for a long time that once we get past primary school that the fun is mostly gone. Even as we get older we have a system of Tafe Colleges here in Australia which now cater solely for the workforce. There are no longer any 'fun' or 'hobby' classes. It's all so deadly serious. Fun and laughter are an absolute necessity.

Thank you for taking a stand - as we all take a stand things will improve. It's hard for us older ones to learn how to visualise and think positively. We may not see it in our lifetime but we pave the way for a better world.

HealingMindN says 1 year, 6 months ago

Kids know fakes. They can see right through to actual intention and sincerity of adults around them. Kids are intuitive of heart knowledge, so they emulate heart knowledge.

"Do as I say, don't do as I do" doesn't cut it with kids. As opposed to linear thinking adults, kids are a life-positive, non-linear thinking breed, so they have endless imagination and unlimited possibilities as standards - until they are raised in a linear thinking culture.

As a result of their following heart knowledge, kids emulate their role models. If it means being as fake as their parents, then that's what they'll do - as they secretly worship so me heavy death metal group.

Good parents start with good people who are sincere to each other, keep each other healthy, happy, and satisfied, and show love and respect for each other as well as for the spiritual authority of the One Universal Mind; this heart knowledge sets the best example for kids.

loren Frost says 1 year, 6 months ago

I am 60 years old and have just stumbled on to the fact that there is a great shift coming..I started reading,and have found in my reading that this has been going on for many years.. the end of the myan calander is in december of 2011 and that is when the shift will be prominent in our lives, the indigo children will show us the way there so we won't be overwelmed when it happens..some people fear that year as the end of the world, but it is the beginning of the Christ Conciousness ...the children of today should be incouraged to learn as much as possible about this shift. most people don't believe in it.. think it is just plain stupid.. however less then 100 years ago we had no cars now look at the world. we are passing the tech age into the new conciousness age where the souls of man already know all that there is, and we will move in the next generation toward that goal to be one with the source...our creator whom we are ourselves manifested by the creators thoughts...have a great mind.. my favorite saying is the mind is like a parachute .. it is useless unless it is open.. so lets encourage our young to open their minds and not to just follow the main.. use your minds go inside or go without..

MustardSeed says 1 year, 6 months ago

This discussion is an essential and necessary work as we prepare for and cultivate this new age of spiritual perception for humanity. The ideas below have taken form through years of contemplation.

1) Role playing in groups, as part of a character development activity/program.
2) Demonstrate and promote service to/with others, first-hand, in a myriad of contexts, as a way of life.
3) Encourage and engage in extended family and/or inter-generational activities.
4) Allow and promote play as a creative opportunity (search on "power of play").
5) Provide learning and activity resource centers, where children and others can see and take part in diverse activities alongside helpful positive practitioners.
6) Practice free thought explorations without judgments as to correctness, appropriateness or practicality, much as properly coached brainstorming exercises.
7) Actively and routinely demonstrate and encourage outward acts of sharing and kindness.

Thank you for this.

Ernesto Jacinto says 1 year, 6 months ago

These are the factors I have noticed that affect children:

1. Provide a sense of self assurance. Mistreating, shouting at them, showing no respect for them affects their own self concept and therefore their ego iamge.
2. Create an environment where they can grow their abilities. Challenge them to make their own toys (assemble them) or use what they have to have fun. Provide stimuli with incentive.
3. Focus imagination and visualization education. Truly incorporate into the educational system.
4. Enhance intuition. Same concept, integrate into educational system.
5. Expand their sense of ownership to include that the planet itself is their responsibility to keep it alive. It is an alive entity and shoud therefore get the same cate and petting as any alive organism.

That's it for today. Thanks for sharing and I just can not wait to see how all of this ends up.

Carina Hoijer says 1 year, 6 months ago

Having worked as a teacher of art earlier I think a good, safe, happy feeling and fun environment is really helpful. Letting pupils be active, trying things and practice a couple of times and allowing them to improve results so they know they can improve them self and develope is important.

Being and feeling safe is important. Beauty, harmony, respect for yourself and others and possibilities to be creative and develope and to do so in your good time.

I think we all can do much more than we are told and you need to try and practice and things happen. People all ages can do so much more. They have energy to use on developing and learning and to dare to do things.

It is about daring to try. Daring to think that you can. Allowing yourself to try and to realize it takes time sometimes. To actually practice and you can do it. It is ok to do mistakes to lose or not be perfect you try and try again.

Just to do different labs, practices and having fun worming up so to speak and develop not expecting a result directly perhaps but to look and se things and yourself develope and you develope and grow.

I believe confidence and self esteem and respect for your own and others development and growth is key.

To allow yourself to be different for starters and others too.

To allow genius to grow to allow yourself to develop. There are so many ways of trying and having fun too. And go back and look again, at whatever it is you are doing art or something else. Use something new something old and try try try. Have can you now if you are good at something if you don not try and allow to try many times not just once.

To be able to se the un inspected and use it. To plan sure but also to use interesting things you didn't plan in your art etc. for instance.

The portfolio is also a good way of working collecting analyzing showing your work reflecting etc sometimes your work is a lot better than you realized you must take some time and look properly.

I certainly think all small kids are very wise and clever and then people tell them stuff like you cant do that or calm yourself. We all do it perhaps when we are tired tell others to calm down etc. Anyway parents and teachers do that way to much they should learn to use that energy the children have for better things like creativity sports other good things growing things a garden or taking care of animals pets having pen pals etc.

Teachers education works well for teachers teaching small kids. Something is sometimes lost at school and college sometimes though. The fun and curiosity for the pupils and the students must continue and the safe good place still has to be there.

I used to let my pupils choose topics to work with and that made them more eager and happy at school. We used to have shows and exhibitions etc and do real work more public things that also triggered sparks and energy was flowing.

I think some american school have a good attitude they should use it more though I am thinking team work everybody is important and have fun and if someone do something good you get inspired and hope to be just as good etc.

New films for young people are better now days I think they are more about being good and creative and happy and kind
in a very nice way. I am thinking like dance films and others. Like films about doing shows etc. There are some nice films abouth animals and pets also etc. Having films
at home about things you do find positive and perhaps would like to happen for yourself and for the young ones is important. Cut down on angry and bad energy in looking at what films you choose and music. etc

Try to have harmony at home at school etc and focus on good energy doing fun and good things.

To let kids find a hobby or a sport or music, dance, art, drama, theatre, writing, having pets, friends to play with or chatting etc thats ways to develop.

To grow and to get that confidence we have and must sometimes find and build up and practice and try many times over and over. To se our self and to se the children as successful is important. There is all ways something good and you can all ways improve yourself and work on things it is all ways time for that. xxxxx

Love and feeling safe is part of this for small children and older ones too. When people feel safe and happy they do good things if that is not so then negativism follows so a happy allowing and loving atmosphere is very important. xxxxxxx

To learn to talk give and take criticism is important to to develope your language to do so is important and to learn is not you personally it is what you have done this time or haven't done that is being judged so the fact is you can work on it what ever it is and try again. xxxxx

Allowing many tries is important at school but also deadlines sometimes booth are important depending and sometimes kids have to be allowed to develop faster or more slow its not wrong or wright its just that we are different thats all. xxxx

Good food more veggies and enough sleep is important.

Super greens for ex and other really good healthy products can make a very big difference.

Drinking enough good water. Having a good environment for eating at school a nice place calm etc and clean safe toilets as well. Beautiful gardens and places to play and paint and sing and dance play theatre and sports and enjoy nature etc is good. Being with animals pets etc is good.

Making young people understand they can try different things and they can practice to learn new things is important. Trying different methods too is good.

Young people can learn to set up goals. Children can allow them self to think now and then what they should like to improve and what they should like for them self as well. Also learning that positive thinking and affirmation can help too and learning thinking like going in to the bubble for calm and peace is good for children also.

Carina Hoijer.

Isa C says 1 year, 6 months ago

Dear Burt:

Thank you so much for bringing this information on the Genius Dip to light!

I am the mother of a seven year old boy. I had been dreaming of the day that I would become a parent for many years and as early as 1993 attended an all-day seminar for parents and teachers of gifted children in my home town. I simply believed then as I do now that all children are indeed gifted. I determined that I would create a new path for myself once I became a parent - not one prescribed by anyone else, although I read very widely, but I was seeking to pursue a more intuitive approach to parenting. The moment I knew that I was pregnant I started communicating with my child and telling him/her (because I deliberately had no attachment to having a child of a particular sex) how beautiful, wonderful and talented he/she is and how blessed I felt to be his/her mother. I was in constant communication with my child in utero even reading out aloud to him on a daily basis. I listened to beautiful music, read inspiring literature and watched only uplifting movies, if I watched movies at all. I found that I had a lot of energy and was extremely creative. Every day I meditated and was intentional about the health, beauty, wonder and intelligence of my child. A few weeks before his birth I had a dream about him - he was in my arms and could possibly have been two months old. He was having a conversation with me and I suggested to him in a teasing way "You think you can do anything your Father can, don't you?" and he gave me a wry smile and quipped "Yes!" Later in that dream he posed a riddle to my father and to my brother (both of whom were later to become his godparents) - He showed them the heavens and asked them this question, "When is 11 divisible by 12?" and told them that there was a profane (obvious) as well as an occult (hidden) answer - my son was in fact telling me through this dream his birth date! He was born on the 11th of December! So, we were really in communication!

From birth until now, I have been convinced of his genius capacity and he has demonstrated it in many ways. I have been very careful not to talk about it except to close family, but have been hungry to do so at the same time as I felt that what I was experiencing was not particularly unique and that there were numerous parents who were having similar experiences to my own. I thought about home schooling him and how I could bring a Waldorf school system to my country - I still have this in mind. I have done everything to place him in an environment where he is the creator rather than merely an observer. Observation is important however the freedom to express and create is vital. His language developed very early. From about 3 weeks old he started communicating with me in his own words and I would always respond to him. I talked with him, sang to him and read to him constantly and by 6 months he said his first recognizable word - not Mummy, but 'car'. By age 2 he was drawing and colouring cars in profile which looked like some racy designs created by a teenager! He would build Legos incessantly - first building the pieces 'as intended' usually intuitively rather than following the instructions and after a short while creating his own designs. By age 4 he was building kits designed for kids twice or three times his age! At age two he was building jigsaw puzzles with 100 pieces - I believe my parents got over-inspired and gave him a 300-piece puzzle to work on - he, grandma and I eventually completed that one together, however he wanted to do it on his own and I came home from work one evening to find the box completely destroyed - the image obliterated forever. Fortunately though, every piece was saved. Three years later having never pulled it out again or having the box as a reference, I watched in awe as my five-year old son assembled the puzzle 'blind' - I thought then "My God, there are so many tiny pieces and there is no picture, how will he do this?" He did not stop until he had done it - it took just over 3 hours, but I was simply amazed at his determination to take this on and not stop until he had successfully completed it.

He has revealed his psychic abilities from very early too and I encourage this (from he was really tiny I started a practice of speaking to him while he was sleeping, usually after he’d been asleep for an hour; I would call him by name, identify who I was and tell him how wonderful and gifted he is listing all the many aspects of his giftedness. This became a weekly practice) I encourage him to talk about his dreams and to create his own stories and try very hard to eliminate the "shoulds" and "supposed tos" in my own language (it is remarkable how difficult it is to shake what we were steeped in as kids!)

While I do provide structure to his day - a rhythm with meals, homework and bedtimes etc. - I allow a lot of flexibility with respect to how he spends his play time. I restrict TV somewhat by suggesting that he might actually find one of his books or building a new design in Lego more interesting and fun and he usually agrees with me on this. He reads books which are not illustrated and will finish them in a flash and get great pleasure out of them as "he makes his own pictures" We still enjoy going to movies together and have seen some particularly good ones recently like "Horton Hears a Who" which really opens up thinking... and most recently "Speed Racer" with which he was enthralled because of the car designs -the details of which he noticed and could recall were quite amazing to me. I encourage him with creative writing, usually for school as well as research projects, art and music. He has been resisting the idea of going to music classes although I realize that he has musical talent as he is able to recall movie scores etc. and tell me specifically at which point in the movie the song was played although we had only ever seen the film once and it might have been many months later that we heard the tune again on the radio!

We have 'idea' conversations when we drive to school. Talking about problems in the world and the environment and what we might do to address them. It is really fascinating to hear the many ideas he has for solving these problems.

I am personally looking for resources to support my son's exploration and his intuitive learning as I have watched the education system strip away so many of his natural capabilities. Certain toys and TV programs will do this too. From my own experience, allowing my child to create - draw, paint and write and act out stories - has done him a world of good. I also tell him constantly that he can be, do, have anything he wants if he really desires it and believes it! I have also learned to be a better listener and this more than anything else has helped me to be more intuitive in my approach.

I am now speaking with other parents at his school about how we can work with the school to introduce a music program as part of the curriculum as well as weekly drama classes. I really would like to see a program similar to the Waldorf system of education operating here.

Burt, I know I have been long-winded. Yes, you did touch a nerve! :- ) I look forward to being part of the community as we share our experiences, thoughts and ideas.

Blessings to you,

Isa

Divinelight50 says 1 year, 6 months ago

I like your expression of sharing a group environment.We all need to share that to bring about all our creativity and everything that we need to survive in the new world.We are becoming a new world.Choosing our government who try to control us with politics is not the way.We need to improve our way of helping nature and sending positive thoughts is one way.We need to take back our power that was given to us by God which he sent to us by Messaish like Christ,Budah,Taoh and Moses and all the other people that tried to teach us the Way.Peace can only be brought to us by God and his Word and Spirit.We need to get in touch with our Spirit and communicate with him.We had all this but lost this through being programmed by mankind.

Rita says 1 year, 6 months ago

Hi Maria!
Great work you´ve been doing with your son.
Try to find a good EFT (Emotionl Freedom Technique) practitioner and try it on your son. It does a lot of good in so many things and it woll help him with his sel-esteem and confidence and it might as well help you. If you can´t find a practitioner near you, you can go to "youtub" and learn a bit there.

All the best for you and your family.

Good bless you!

Rita

Patriciasweden says 1 year, 6 months ago

My third daughter Madeleine was born with a unique translocation betwee an X chromosome and the 4th one.

The doctors told us that she was "deep" mentally retarded, so I figuraded out that the next stept to wards a lower level was a dead retarded daughter.

Luckily I just felt sorry for that poor judgement and by observing Madeleine´s way of reacting to our threelingual daily contact between her brother and sister who just talked to her in Swedidh as well as her father, while I always talked to my three children in Spanish, Betweeen my ex.husband and I we used to talk English but if the whole family was together we spoke just Swedish.

The interesting thing was that Madeleine understood all the three languages much sooner than her own brother and sister and that really pusseled us all.

Of cpourese all the doctors used to write about me specially that Í didn´t understand how severed handicap Madeleine was and that´s why I wasd just totally wrong.

But one day after meeting Doman (one of the craetors of the Philladelphia method) and the author of the great book "Teach your baby to read", here in Stockholm, I came back home and I laid down Madeleiene`s little hand on mine and I told the old child "story" of the 5 fingers where each finger has done something with an egg.
Guees how surprise I was when I asked my 2 years old child who also suffered of Cerabral pulsy, which finger had done sometihin according to the story and she as difficult as it was for her to move her hand over my own right hand to be able to show me the right finger I was asking for, she had memorized the hole story as deep mentally retarded as her "clever" dooctors had described her.

From that day until today I keep on developing that idea which after my Madeleiene`s desapearence from this hard world keeps on growing and has turn into Madeleienè´s coodinad communication system.

There is an Innovator who is going to incorporate Madeleiene´s system into the Mobil Market, this technologicall divice isthe legacy from a little angel who was condemed to live her short live in an Institution as we were told by the experts since they described her as a little package from our family to all the people with communication desorders.

So my advice to all the parents in the whole world...don´t ever listen to the experts adivice...we parents know better.... Follow my advice and be constantly aware that there is a hidden world of endless possibilities open for all who seek.

Barbara says 1 year, 6 months ago

Hi Burt,
I agree that there are many factors working against our childeren. I can remember myself being confused as a child, having premonitions of things to come. I used to tell my mother who was calling on the phone before caller I.D. with 100% accuracy. My mother behaved as though she was afraid of me. A teacher at my church said it was from the devil, and I should try to stop it. The only one person who I could talk to about anything, without feeling afraid of there response, was my grand mother. She allways listened and told me I wasn't crazy. Had I had more incouragement from others, I may have developed it more. I felt like an outcast, and stopped doing what I perceved as a bad thing. My daughter told me recently that her son was telling her things at the age of 2. She said he doesn't say much any more, at 7.
I believe we as parents have a duty to listen as my grandmother did to me, and enchourage them to fly.
Sincerely, Barbara

Maria Kielty says 1 year, 6 months ago

My youngest son was birth damaged through a forceps delivery and was late meeting all his milestones, but I knew that he was bright. Just before his 4th birthday he could only say mum and was referred for speach therapy. However, I took him to a homoeopath and for cranial osteopathy as I felt there was some emotional and physical trauma. Following treatment there was a phenomenal change and he was using over 300 words within a month and no longer required support from the speach therapist. However, he struggled at school and was slow to deliver what the school wanted academically, but he was always artistic and creative. I had him assessed by a friend/colleague who as an educator felt that children diagnosed ADHD, Aspergers, ASD, Dyrpaxia and Dyslexia were being let down by the system. I never had my son labelled but I did have him assessed and most of his reflexes that should have integrated in utero and shortly after birth remained unintegrated, affecting balance, confidence, manual dexterity and so on. We attended parent/child classes which revolved around fun games to get children crossing the midline and effectively reintegrate the reflexes and switch the children back on. Sessions finished with tactile therapy, involving many massage movements which crossed over the body. All my son's reflexes have been reintegrated but he has some residual difficulties, such as lack of self-esteem and confidence, which came about from bullying at school. We changed his school and he is just coming to the end of his first year there and again a lot has improved, he is integrating with his peers much better than before and is becoming more involved with his learning. Nonetheless, with schools driven by outcomes such as test results, particularly for the core subjects in maths, english and science there remains less of an emphasis on the creative arts, which is very sad indeed. We will however, continue to encourage him artistically and musically.

Mary says 1 year, 6 months ago

Burt, I think a lot of our trouble revolves around media - no not the violence so much as the skewed version of reality. If, in the fifties, TV made women believe that a clean house was more important than spending time with their children, then whatever does today's TV teach?

I think the best thing I gave my children, was me. I was fortunate enough to have a husband willing to support us so I could stay home with the kids. My house was generally cluttered, but we built dams in the creek. My dishes might have sat in the sink overnight, but we read wonderful books together. Other parents dropped their kids at scouts, I planned the meetings and was there. I felt a little guilty about the house but I figured it would get done when it needed to, and it did. It was clean enough to be healthy and cluttered enough to be happy.

Recently our two oldest children blessed us with granddaughters 9 weeks apart. I saw my son read to his wifes belly, and my daughter discuss menus with hers. I have no doubt that these little girls will grow up in an environment of love and support.

In short, the best thing I could give my children was the belief that they were more important than housecleaning, and that all they need is people who love them, a roof that doesn't leak and a furnace that works - the rest is gravy.

I believe we live in a world that puts too much importance on gravy.

Blessings,
Mary

Leila says 1 year, 6 months ago

Hi everyone, I think - as Burt suggested in his video - that children aren't listened to enough. They are not taken seriously, especially where their feelings are concerned. Nearly everything I remember from my childhood - probably everything - comes from my feelings and thoughts and if great care had been taken by the adults around me to nurture a sense of belief in my feelings and thoughts; an ability to listen to and to make decisions following on from my feelings and thoughts, then I feel sure I would not have had the difficulties I have had in finding my true path. I am still working on listening to and believing in myself and I try to help the children I meet to do the same.

barbara says 1 year, 6 months ago

I HAVE FROM TIME TO TIME BEEN ABLE TO REMEMBER
THAT I HAVE CHOSEN TO PLAY IN THIS TIME.

THESE MOMENTS HUMBLE ME AND ALSO MAKE ME LAUGH AT MY ATTACHMENT TO WHAT I THINK IS ME.

I KNOW THAT MANY OTHERS ARE REMEMBERING THAT WE AGREED AT ANOTHER TIME THE CURTAIN WOULD OPEN AND A NEW AMAZING (I THINK, KIND & JOYFUL) PLAY WILL BE PRESENTED BY
THE CHILDREN OF THE UNIVERSE.

AS I FEEL MY MEMORY RETURNING I AM..... POWERING UP AND IT IS SO MUCH FUN!

kofi says 1 year, 6 months ago

hi burt.the genius dip was a fantastic document.alongside that report i would also wish to recommend the pioneering book on emotional intelligence which drives home yor point that parents havve much more than a responsibility infact they are induty bound.kofi

stuart Hague says 1 year, 6 months ago

Hi Burt,

It has to be a very positive exercise you are initiating, albeit you are most likely appealing to the proven 98% who are victims of the genius dip and therefore most likely would not have the experiences and related wisdom you are asking for.

However, out of the many replies you will undoubtedly get, I am sure there will be many usable nuggets.

I am no genius, a definite 98%er! However, I do successfully get along with my fellow man and have never had to resort to violence once in my 58 years. In this day and age that's saying something!

My own experiences however are soundly based in a loving family environment. My parents, uncles and aunties were a shining example of the best things in humanity. Although they all had tough and difficult times, the essence of love and caring was always there. It is not hard to understand that this is something which rubs off very easily.

In this environment there was no aggression, there was no need for it. A bit of competitiveness, but not enough to make one bitter, sad or give you a feeling of inadequacy. We were nurtured to feel loved and therefore were able to give out love to all in turn.

However, there was always a feeling in the back of ones mind that life on earth was not all that there was!. I don't know where this came from, but having a feeling of having an 'extra buddy' was a great help at difficult times.

I suppose your quest actually raises the question 'in which capacity are you looking for genius development. Mental, Spiritual or both?'

I rather feel that having a Spiritual genius for a President or Prime Minister would certainly shake things up a bit!

Venita says 1 year, 6 months ago

Firstly thanks Burt for opening this venue - I do believe we have to invest in our kids and grandchildren - but our hectic lives create huge potholes in the time we give to them.
I for one think we should use the internet to create a site were our children can be encouraged to develop the law of attraction and vibration, lesson of positive self image is shared, venues to communicate with like minded children from around the world, and major input from people around the world who does know how to develop the minds of our younger generations - i think something like a youth membership site with adult creative input.
We as parents do have this responsibility, and we as parents are the ones that must take it to another level.

Venita

Joyce ONeill says 1 year, 6 months ago

I gave my 4 children one on one time as well as group 'family' time. I encouraged them to think for themselves. Rather than criticize them, I helped them see for themselves what they had done wrong and WHY it was wrong. I fostered empathy. I insisted that they play outdoors and make up games. No sitting with the video games all the time. I helped them to widen their horizons by researching their homework, or something they saw on tv, etc. My husband and I tried to always encourage them and we stood by them no matter what. They stood by each other as well. I had 4 children that got along together and still do. They are now grown and two have children of their own. Encourage imagination, empathy with others and creative problem solving. Don't do things FOR them-rather do things WITH them. Above all, spend time with them. They deserve it and you will see the results.

Dinesh chandra says 1 year, 6 months ago

I am already teachung my child meditation ,creating confidence and also to throw negative thoughts.My child is is trying think positively.He feel mrntally relaxed and physically have more energy.

Amy Bush Bradley says 1 year, 6 months ago

I agree with you, Burt. Focusing on what we ultimately want will yield the results we desire.

In our family, allowing the children their own space and decision making has been a help in them being able to discern information and follow their own intuition. For children to be in touch with their own guidance is paramount.

As a mother who feels passionate about parents and children I can say this: the best gift I've given my children is to work on myself. That is, to focus on my relationship with myself so I am operating from a whole, loving place. Our children need us to model who we really are.

To get to this place of knowing our own truth is a personal journey and each one is unique. I serve as a transformational parenting coach for anyone desiring assistance along the way ). We have free & paid resources available beginning June 2008: http://www.transformationalparenting.com

Thanks, Burt, for what you are doing... I truly believe we have the power to greatly affect the whole through focusing on parents and children.

Warmly,
Amy Bush Bradley

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